...do I ask my sister about her possible TTC jouney? (warning, babies mentioned)

Hello,
Ok - strange question here...

As many of you will know, DH and I underwent IVF and after 12 months of trying were lucky enough to have our DS. Along the road we told our family, including my younger sister (30) who has been in a long term relationship with her partner (who is a few years older than her). Both my sister and her partner are very career focused, but do love spending time with their nieces and nephews (most are on her partners side).

Anyway, Mum recently said that she had a doll cradle that I could have for ds to put teddy's in, and she said that I might as well have it, and I said that my sister might want it in case she ever had kids, and Mum said 'remember she cant have kids, that is what they told me when she was at the Royal Childrens Hosptial'...I just replied that things have changed a lot since then (talking 20+ years), and left it at that.

So, I remember when we were younger that my sister was very ill and had surgery to remove adhesions that were strangulating her bowel and other internal organs (? - maybe ovaries/tubes???) and that she also has suffered from eating disorders as through her teenage years (and is still pretty thin). I think I remember Mum telling me that my sister should not have babies because after the adhesions she had, the risk of internal scaring would be too great if she had to have a c-section, but I cant remember the specific reason why she could not have babies. I dont really want to discuss it with Mum as it could just get out of control. I guess my question is, should I bring up the topic with my sister given that there are prob now ART that could help her conceive if she wanted to? On the one hand I think that if she wanted to discuss she would bring it up with me, but at the same time we have not been that close, and we have not been very open about discussing our journey other than saying we were doing IVF (we have not really told people why). To be honest I'm not sure she would even want kids even if she could have them, but I guess I dont know.

Any thoughts???
FG

well thats a tricky one isn't it.
if she knows what you guys went thru i am sure she'd find out for herself if it was possible for her to have any kids ? maybe?
maybe you could casually bring it up, and say " have you ever thought of being tested to see if you can have kids" at least you'd know and if it is a touchy subjest then you know what not to say.

i really don't have an answer for you, but she's your sister and ususlly they are very forgiving. good luck.