I am so disappointed

Well it has taken me 24 hours to post this as I am still numb and have been crying on and off all day.

We had a scan yesterday and it seems that Shaniqua has a willy. :crying:
I dont mean this to come across as mean or ungrateful or anything like that as I know there are many women out there who would give their right arm to be in my place, but I am numb and I dont know how to process this.

I think I went into a bit of shock on the table as my blood pressure bottomed out and I nearly passed out.
We had two scans done at 20 weeks because I couldnt believe after four boys we really were getting our longed for little girl. But yes thats the "toaster" we look for, for a girl and there is certainly nothing there to indicate a boy.
My excitement at been able to finally buy pink clothes, the pride I felt when saying "yes its a girl" the thoughts of all the girly things I was finally going to get to do I was over the moon.
Now at 35 weeks its gone! Why me? Why did they have to get it wrong with us??
We havent told anyone yet as I am not ready for the cliche'd responses and sympathy looks. I want to process it in my head first but I dont know where to start. I dont want to hang on to the maybe it still is a girl I need to start believing it is a boy so I can "grieve" I know that sounds so crazy because my baby is fine and looks healthy and happy but I feel like I have lost her.:crying:

No real words, just lots of :hug::hug::hug::hug:

DH was the other way around when we found out Bellah was a girl although its not the same they got it right for us. However an old friend of mine was told at numerous scans she was having a girl bought all pink, decked all the nursery out and birthed a boy!
I am so sorry you arent happy with the sex, is this your last pregnancy?

:hug:
I can understand it must have been a shock. Take some time :hug:

Hun, maybe you would like to join the closed group for Gender dissapointment? It will give you a more private space to digest all this and work through everything that you are feeling ATM :hug:

Yes five is definately enough for our household, so no more pregnancies for me.

I have only pink. I ebayed like mad and sold all my blue to replace it with pink. I put it all away this morning as I dont want to look at it.
I know I will be ok and get through this but I am struggling right now.

Oh what a shock :hug:. I'm so sorry you were told the wrong gender, it is a lot to take in at this late stage :hug:.

To be honest, when I first started reading your post - I was getting a bit peed-off to say the least (4 m/c & ttc # 2 for 16 months), but then I read further about you being told it was a girl, selling all your boy items etc... and I feel really quite sad & somewhat disappointed for you. I think Trillian's suggestion to go to the Gender Dis thread would be a good idea. I hope you can find some peace.

:hug: Oh hun Wish there was more I could say :hug: xxxx

wow i am shocked also, wow how could they get it wrong my head says. :hug: for all of you :hug: is all i can say or do i know how reserved you were when told a girl you were so suprised and just when your so close to be told they ahd it wrong is so unfair.
:hug: sweet
xoxox Kitty

Huge hugs hun :hug:

I wish there was more I could say.

You better make it clear to your boys now that you demand alot of little granddaughters in years to come. You will have so much fun spoiling them. Lots and lots of hugs to you.

Oh you poor thing. I don't know what to say so I just wanted to give you a big :hug:
Hope you're feeling better about it all soon. :comfort:

Oh i am so sorry to hear your hopes for a little princess have been dashed. I can't imagine what you are going though now after hearing it is a girl, and them now telling you it is a boy. :hug:
I hoped so much that my 3rd little bubba was going to be a girl. But i guess thankfully i found out he was a boy at 20 weeks, so it gave me a long time to process it. :hug: :hug: :hug: certainly look at joining the gender disappointment forum. I am sure you will find a lot of support there from women who have been in a similar situation to yours.

Hugs again!

All-boys - so sorry to hear about your news :( I haven't had babies of my own yet but when I visualise my family all I see is daughters - I have a lot of fear about how I will respond if I have little boys so I can understand where you're coming from - especially after all of the preparation you have been doing. Sending lots of love your way xoxo

:hug:
There is not much I can say without sounding cliche, but I want you to know I am thinking of you.
x

:hug:

I understand completely. I thought DD2 was a boy. Of course we are all happy she is healthy and everything - but I really wanted another boy :( :(

And that was my last pregnancy too :cry:

ETA - did you need some boy stuff? I can send you some boy stuff if you like :hug:

It must be a big shock. I just want to give you a hug :hug:. Are they 100% sure its a boy? :hug: