Feeling Conflicted... DD moving to her own room..

So DD is 14 months old and still in our room (I know I know!!) DH and I said till 3 months, then she was still too little so bought her cot into our room, then we said 6 months, still to little and we said 12 months.. and now she is 14 months and still in our room!
I dont mind - its so good to have her so close and knowing she is ok! But I feel like its time she was in her own room, and I think she does too! We wake her up when we move (or DH snores!!) and vice versa..

But I still feel conflicted! I know she will be ok in her room and she loves her room, oftern playing with her toys in there for hrs at a time, and she is no more than 20 mtrs from our room (small house, our room at the front then kitchen then spare rooms) so I will be able to hear her and we have a wizz bang motitor that is mega sensative - so no issues there! I will miss her and feel like im casting her out..

On the other hand I am looking fwd to being able to watch tv in bed, read books in bed or brows BB in bed.. or heaven forbid DTD with DH in bed!! And seeing as we are TTC all the more will be happening!

So why do I feel so cr@p??

Sorry for the ramble.. not sure what the point of this post is! I just feel conflicted!

Kate

It's so hard darl. We moved Jazz mostly for her, as we were waking her up, and yep, it was so hard. I cried the first night, I felt she was so far away! I knew it was right though, just hard. It felt different to other times, when I knew she was too little/not ready. I knew she was ready, it was hesitation because of change, not fear. Jazz was 13, almost 14, months when we moved her.

I think if you know its right for you, then the next step is taking the plunge and working your way through it. If it feels wrong, and you're feeling forced, dont do it, you'll just stress over it too much.

Jazz hasn't displayed any behaviours that she might feel 'cast off'. In fact she seems to love that she has her own space, and you know you're not casting her out! It's a natural progression, and the 14 months she has spent with you is positive reinforcement that you will be there for her when she needs it, whether you are in the same room or a different room. :hug:

Thanks SO SO SO much Leash!!

I know in my heart its right for her - SHE is ready! I am ready! It will just be different! And she some times co-sleeps and if she is unslettled or sick then she will be straight in our bed again without hessiation! Its just time..
DH has been great and he knew up till now that we were both NOT ready but know he knows we are.. he would never force me, he jokes that Bella will be in our room when she is 21!! LOL!!

I think I will cry more than she does! I know that she knows that if she wakes or cries or what ever that I will be there in a flash - and thats all that matters!!

Thanks again!

Kate

Looks like tomorrow is cot moving day...

I know how you feel J. Our DD is 7 and has moved into her room and back to ours a few times. currently she is in hers and I still miss her even though her room is right across from ours and I can hear her breathing! Hope it goes well.

I moved DD into her own room when she was 18 months old. She's now two and a half and I've spent the last year trying to find any excuse to bring her into our bed for the night :lol:!

I really do think though that the fact that she was in our room for so long made the transition very easy because she was so secure and confident that if she needed mum & dad they always came and gave her a cuddle.

We never had a problem. She slept through the night from the first night we moved her.

The only time I've had any success in getting her back into our bed was when we went away for the weekend and a kookaburra started headbanging against her window.

I hear you Jakabella!!!! DD is still in our room!! I feel like if I move her it will be like 'ok you're old enough now, you're out, we need our space away from you' :( But that's not it! But we're not ready yet. I guess sometime in the next 6 months we will be. Her room seems so far away and I would worry about her :( She also cosleeps alot and wakes a lot so I really could not be bothered walking down to get her in the middle of the night! Maybe when she's sleeping a bit better. Everyone thinks I'm crazy I think, lol.

Thanks Ladies! It may not be this weekend! Bella is a bit off color and just want to be with either mum or dad so maybe when she is better... I gotta say Im liking putting it off for a while! But I know that she will be fine and still feel scure that we love her and will be there for her.. I know that she will be fine! Mummy may not be so fine tho!

Kate