hints for communicating in stressful situations for best results
People that have worked for me in the past are still close to me decades later and still express alot of gratitude and warmth and say i treated them very well.
I used to give alot of appreciation,
and write annoyances down for myself and then go over them a few days later and only mention respectfully the few most vital things sandwiched in appreciation.
I would seek advice from people gifted at resolving issues and communicating effectively .
I wonder how many people feel confident of communicating in sticky work situations and do they find they can do it immediately while still in shock, or do they need to take it away for a day and calm down , clarify a situation and find the best words to communicate. What are your hints to stay calm, clarify and resolve situations and do you try to do it immediately or after calming down.
I probably could have avoided feeling so shocked and stressed in a minor situation recently if i reminded myself that its probably just a miscommunication or misunderstanding, that with a bit of talking could be clarified/resolved.
i wish that i could immediately have thought of all the things that i had clarity about only after a day and a not too bad, but also not so perfect, first communication attempt.
I wonder if this is realistic to think i could have had all the clarity and ideal way of communicating immediately, that came out only after a mediocre not so perfect first attempt?
Things i had clarity about after a day that i wish i could have immediately been clear about were
what were the details of why i felt stressed, which gives us guidelines of what i needed and
how could i best have communicated, or what questions could i have asked to clarify it all, or alternatives offered to solve it immediately.
i knew all the answers clearly after a day an after a not so perfect first attempt
but is it realistic to think i could have done much better immediately and had more clarity and perfect communication immediately.
People say always talk in person not in writing, because in writing tone can be easily misinterpreted. what we write factually, unless its really softened in some way can come across harshly in writing, or even verbally.
Do you always try to follow this rule of talking in person and not in writing?
Can we always feel confident to talk easily clearly in person while still feeling the initial shock/stress.
should we just delay talking about it and try to gain more clarity of the situation before communicating,
or does that prolong our upset which talking sooner might clear up.
In hindsight i wish i had ,
realised i probably didnt have all the info so it was probably just a misunderstanding that could be easily resolved,
relayed back to the person what they were saying and tried to get more info and clarity around it,
and spoken up clearly as to why i found it stressful, and offered an alternative.
But can i really expect to have all that clarity immediately which i had a day later and after a not so perfect first attempt.
do others have hints that have worked for them, or do we just have to forgive ourselves for not having all the clarity and best ways we could have said things immediately , but only a day later or after a not so perfect first attempt.
thanks
