Advice please???

Ok....my body is totally confusing me at the moment so I thought I'd see what you ladies rekon I should do...

I'm currently 19DPO (provided I O'd when I thought I did) and have no sign of AF yet also got a BFN on a pregnancy test yesterday morning. I have never been this late before (well, at least not that I can remember anyway). My cycle is usually 28 days on the dot...or at most 30, so I'm not really sure what is going on. I've heard that some people can test negative for months into their pregancy....

What do you think I should do? Based on the fact I got a BFN do you think I am kidding myself to think there is a chance (be honest)? I am contemplating waiting a few more days and if AF still doesn't show test again and if still negative go to the doc to find out what my stupid body is doing.....

Hey Chody,

I'm no expert, and I'm trying for my first so I'm talkin out of my butt a bit here, but anyway, here's what I reckon.

If you're late, and you're never late, it's possible (if not likely) something is going on. Wether it's that you're UTD of not I couldn't tell you, though that's the obvious answer. Even a blood test couldn't tell you anything for sure until about 4 weeks I think (I'm only basing this on a blood test I took on Tuesday (she ran every test in the book) and the results from pathology on the pregnancy test list the level my bloods were at, and the levels you would expect at, say 4-6 weeks pregnant, 6-8 and so on. They only started at 4 weeks though,so I'm guessing that's the soonest they can see any change. That's probably of little comfort to you I know, but that's my take on how it works - hopefully someone else will be able to say 'actually no, Donna, you idiot, here's how it works :)

If I'm doing my numbers right (go easy on me - it's 1.30 in the morning lol), and I'm also assuming your luteal phase (I think that's the right word - time from O to AF) is on or around the 14 day mark, given you have a pretty standard cycle time, you're a few days late - 4 or 5 maybe? Whilst to you this is a lot, because you normally run like clockwork, and I suspect yes, something is definitely going on, it may be too early to see a result on a test.

I'm afraid patience might be the only answer (says the queen of impatience lol). I'm sure you're going nuts, and driving yourself crazy, coz I would be too, but I suspect you will need to just keep waiting to see what happens. If in a few days AF hasn't shown, nor shown any signs of appearing, I'd do another HPT. If that's negative, I'd go see a doctor and hope that my theory about blood tests was completely wrong :) Just think - the longer it takes you to find ou, the less time you have to wait to tell everyone (assuming that you'd be waiting). That' how I think of it :)

Isn't it funny how we spend all our days looking for signs that we're preggers, then when we get those very signs we spend all our time trying to convince ourselves we're NOT, and listing all the reasons you might be experiencing such and such... I understand we do it so as not to build our hopes up and to avoid the dissapointment, but really! The torture we put ourselves through! :D

Sending lots of well wishes and :pink-babydust: your way - keep us updated matey :)

A BT can tell from the day AF is late, usually approx 4 weeks from LMP which is what the 40 weeks is based on. So 4 weeks pg is the day AF was due.

Chody, are you charting? It could be possible that you Oed late this month, in which case your LP might not be as long as you think it is. I had a 2 day discrepancy in my LP at the beginning of charting and FF told me that it was irregular so would be hard to become PG, I was pg in 3 months of actively TTC.

Alternatively, the brand of HPT you are using could be dodgy. I personally used First Response or Clear Blue for each of my pregnancies because they had the best reviews. I never had good experiences with fortel, like the control line never came up, and the Ebay ones were just too messy and flimsy.

Best of luck and :stickyvibesboy: :stickyvibesgirl:

Thanks for your responses.

In reply to what test I am using, I just grabbed a 'pregnosis clear' off the shelf, not sure if this is good brand or not....

No, I haven't been charting. It is just my first month TTC to I thought I'd 'wing it' for the first few months. That being said, it could be likely that I O'd later than expected so it could just be a longer than usual cycle. I just based the start of my TTW on the length of my usual cycle....

I still have no sign of AF so I guess I'll just keep waiting lol

chody - the waiting is the worst & the whole not knowing - my cycles when i fell pregnant with my girls (they have a different dad to my current partner) were all over the place & one month i went 42 days & then got AF - when i fell pregnant with my first i was on the pill & tested the day my period didnt turn up - i got a BFN so waited another week & still a BFN (cant remember the name of the test) so it wasnt till 3 weeks past my period was due that i finally got a BFP then went to the dr to get another test done
sorry im not much help

AF still hasn't shown.....:wall:

Well it turns out AF was missing for a reason.....I got my BFP today at 25DPO!!!!

congrats chody!!

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Yay Chody, I have been stalking the TTC thread and am sooo happy to see you got your BFP!!!
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I hope you have a very uneventful pregnancy! Except for a gorgeous bubba at the end!

Yay!!
congrats!!!!