Connecting with spirit guides?

I would love to hear from those of you who know, how could I connect better with spirit guides. I know some people are able to 'feel' their guides and can 'hear' when they're trying to tell them things. I think my guides try to be helpful, but I'm just not good at 'listening' and hearing what they're trying to say. I often ask questions, and I guess they are answered because I usually get what I want, lol, but I just don't necessarily feel the q's are answered much like I used to and I think it's just because I can't 'hear' so well anymore.
Before having children I was aboe to quiet my mind and look into myself (maybe a sort of meditating I had taught myself) and sometimes see things, or I would often have recurring dreams and lots of deja-vu. I used to dream fairly frequently and would have reoccurring dreams if I wasn't 'seeing' something! But since having my kids, my life is so much more hectic and I can't be quiet. I rarely get much of a chance to actually have time to juet 'be'. Which, for a person liek me who really loves time alone, messes with my psyche!!
So I would love to know, what are ways that I could reconnect again?
(BTW, Telling me to take time away and be alone, isn't really going to help, because it doesn't often happen it and most likely won't change!)
I hope this doesn't sound like a heap of waffle!!
TIA :D

I've found that since I am so busy with kids and the house all the time, my mind is very busy too. And it's the mind that blocks the messages of spirit coming through. The mind blocks us from ourself. IYKWIM? So try to quieten the thinking, the contant mind going on about what to do today, what to feed the kids etc. Once you can be present with no mind, you feel more connected to yourself and to the energy of spirit around you. Hope that helps.

Get and read Laeh Maggie Garfield's book, Companions in Spirit.

Thanks MD, I think I will add that book to my list!