Advice Please...I am constantly worried!!?!?

I am a little over 16 weeks pregnant and i am constantly worried if everything is ok. Everything was fine at the 12 week scan but from then till the next one ( in 2 more weeks) it feels like forever. All i want is another ultrasound to make sure everything is fine and I have been like that since day 1 - we had IVF so maybe that makes you worry more?
Anyway, i have been feeling great, i havent even felt pregnant the last few weeks, i feel normal, i think thats why i have been worrying. However, i have had no cramps, no bleeding, no discomfort, therefore everything should be fine right?? i would know if something was wrong wouldnt i ?

Also, does anyone know how to stop feelings of worry, i cant seem to enjoy my pregnancy for the constant worry and i just live for the next ultrasound.
I know its crazy, but i just cant help it :wall:

I think its totally normally to feel how you do especially when it took longer then normal to get there in the first place. Soon you should feel movements of bub and this will be very reassuring as then you wont need an ultrasound to tell he/she is ok. Can you go to an AN appointment and have a doppler? Just for piece of mind. At 16weeks your health provider can almost always find it and hear a nice strong heart beat.
Unfortunately the worry will probably be constant until you have he/she is your arms (and you still worry after then) try and enjoy been pregnant as much as you can as if you don't you will look back on your pregnancy and realise how you didn't enjoy it as much as you could have because of the constant worry that something could happen. Its easioer said then done.

Sending you big :hug: eevee. I know how you feel, I was a basket case for the entire first half of my pregnancy and lived for each scan.

The good thing was that my anxiety decreased considerably after my 20 wk scan. I know two weeks feels like an eternity, but once you have that scan I would think you'll feel a lot less anxious.

I would go with Mildez's suggestion of seeing if one of your midwives can use a doppler to find your baby's heartbeat. I had this done one day when I was almost crying with anxiety that something had happened to my baby. The one warning she gave me was that sometimes early on they can't find the heartbeat with a doppler, so only have the doppler if I could cope with them being unable to find a heartbeat.

Do you have an OB? I wonder if s/he could fit you in for a super quick scan between now and your 20 week scan, just to see the heartbeat. I would call and explain how anxious you are and see if there's anything they can do for you.

The other good thing is that once you get through the next few weeks, you will start to feel your baby moving around, that was the main thing that kept my anxiety at bay to a certain extent.

I really feel for you hun, I've been there and it was a very difficult time.

I hope someone can help you out.

xxx

Hey,

I can totally relate to what you are going through - weeks 14, 15 and 16 were the hardest mentally for me because I felt physically great and hadn't felt bubby move yet and it also felt like AGES till our next scan at 19 weeks. I was constantly wondering if everything was ok.

But at 16w5d when I was in my acupuncture appointment I got a kick from way inside and it was the best feeling.

Hang in there babes, all will be fine and just wait till you get that first kick. There is no other feeling in the world.

Huge hugs
Sue xxx

Hi eevee,

You're certainly not alone. We didn't have any scans/appointments scheduled between 12 and 20 weeks and by week 16 I was just like you. I rang my OB's rooms and they suggested I go in and see a midwife. She did a quick check up of me and we heard the heartbeat which was so very reassuring. I started feeling movements from 17 weeks which helped ease my mind immensly and now although I probably tend to worry a bit more than some of my non- IVF friends who are pregnant I have calmed down heaps with time. So I know it's so much easier said but done but do try to relax a little as the stress and worry isn't good for you and bub. I go to fortnightly acupuncture which works for me but any sort of gentle exercise, yoga etc might help you relax?

There is a forum for those of us pregnant after long term trying to conceive (LTTTC) which you may find helpful, it's a lifeline for me! Sorry I can't post the link, I'm on my phone.

Wishing you all the very best.

Lise xx

Hi Eevee,

Like everyone else has said you are definantly not alone. I had 9 miscarriages before this pregnancy and I spent probably the first 22 weeks anxiety stricken. Now I feel Little Miss here move all the time my anxiety has lessened, but I still don't think i will feel normal till she is in our arms.

I found weeks, 16-22 the hardest because I still was only seeing my OB monthly and I still hadnt felt her move, and I didn't have my 20 week scan till 22 weeks. but my morning sickness had just started to ease off.

Maybe see if you can get an early scan or dr's app to hear the heartbeat if you are really worried. I'm sure all is well and little he or miss is just happy swimming around in there growing enough to start bombarding you with sharp hard kicks in a matter of weeks.


:)

Thank you everyone for all your advice, i feel better now. I know i am not the only one now who is worried and i guess its pretty much normal!
Cant wait till the next appointment when i find out i was just worrying for nothing..

Thanks again:dance:

Wow!! This thread is awesome!! I just found it. We are pregnant with our 2nd (17 weeks) after 5 years of trying. Admittedly I have not had to go through IVF or miscarriages.....but have been seriously stressing since about week 15. I don't feel pregnant and I am not real big yet.Felt a couple of movements around week 15/16 and not much since which I know is normal but still. I had some bleeding week11 and then again in week 14..my scan at 13 weeks was wonderful seeing bubba so healthy. But I think I must be highly paranoid cos of how long it took to conceive this bubba and I just stress about it going full term 24/7. Its nice to know I'm not the only one out there that feels like this. Has been a big pick me up to read!! You ladies are the BEST!!!

Can totally relate.

I think being a LTTTCer really puts the pressure on when you are waiting in between appointments. I had a scan at 16 weeks to check my cervix and it was far better than my 20 week scan (only cause baby was moving, and was sleeping at 20 weeks)

I guess at about 14-18 weeks you are still waiting for the movements ect and that what drove me insane.

sending hugs x