when to feel safe?

I didn't expect this, but I am still not feeling 100% about this pregnancy. I had a blighted ovum last year at 11 weeks and now I am just under 15 weeks (scans have all been good and I think I felt a little movement). I still don't feel "safe" IYKWIM? I take it this is a common reaction? I kinda feel like I won't feel safe until the baby is actually here, which I know if silly because I have no reason to expect a late loss. Still I am not "enjoying" this pg as much, which is a little sad. I just can't wait to feel the proper kicks...

Hugs hun.
I know exactly where you are coming from and TBH I never felt 100% safe at all. When DD started kicking I felt better about it all - then they have a quiet day and the worry would creep back in.

I just tried to relax (yeah right!!) and enjoy as much as I could - but when DD was in my arms I felt better... then the "other" sets of worry start!

Try and embrace your preg and try and relax..Its hard I know.

xox

It is so normal to feel like this. I never stopped worrying until DD was born and placed in my arms. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and congrats.

Regards,
Dianne

Rory what you are feeling is something many women report in pregnancy after a loss. :hug: Often once a woman has passed the time in her previous pregnancy that she lost her baby she feels better, but can continue feeling cautious and uneasy. Basically a loss reminds us that sadly things can happen in pregnancy, loss happens & this reality cannot be escaped once a baby has been lost. :hug:

I think you will feel better once you feel movements & can monitor your baby yourself that way... For all of our technological advances maternal monitoring of movements is known to be one of the best ways to guage a baby's well being.

For me & I know my story is different but I didn't truly believe that she was alive until she was born and alive. And I didn't truly believe she was coming home with me until I walked out of the hospital with her wrapped in my arms... :hug:

after my m/c it was until about 35 weeks that I started to think, hang on, this is all ok and going to happen. I could really start to focus on the birth and having bub arrive safe and sound.

Up until that point I found it really hard to get excited about the pg and no one really knew I was UTD until I was over 20 weeks.

:hug:

I think it is completely normal to be feeling what you are feeling.

I am afraid to feel to connected to my bub now, after losing Flicker's Twin, I fear that if I am too close that if Flicker doesn't make it the pain will be unbearable:redface:, and TBH at the moment I can't see any particular milestone at which point I will feel safe. Most likely, like Inanna, the day I leave hospital with bub in my arms......
Take care hun :comfort: xxoo

Oh gosh, I was hoping that once I see a scan & hit 10 weeks in my next pregnancy that I will be ok (our bub was lost at 9wk 5d). I guess though it's good to know now, in advance, that it's normal.

Rory I hope once you get some regular big movements that you'll start to feel a bit better :hug:

You might feel like that Sarah - many women after early losses are fine once they reach the time in their last pregnancy that their baby died. This is very common. My situation was with later loss & there is no safe time with that really... :cry:

Thanks all :redface: I have an appointment with my midwife tomorrow morning so hopefully she'll have a doppler and I can hear a heart beat.

I must say I think I was very lucky to have had such a happy, easy time with my first two pregnancies - I really feel for women who went through losses before they actually had carried to term.

Thanks again girls.