Positive stories please...

Hi,

Well I am currently in the dreaded 2ww again!!

My DH and I are on our 4th ivf cycle following 2 fresh and 1 FET. We fell pregnant on the 3rd try but unfortunately discovered at 8wks that it was a blighted ovum :shakehead:.

I am so confused as how to feel at the moment, they have transferred two embryos back in yesterday but I am scared to feel positive and also scared to feel negative, i want this so much to work but have been disappointed 3 times now.

Does anyone else feel this conflict, how do you cope with the 2ww? And has anyone had success after 3 or 4 attempts??

Thanks in advance, Bronze :)

Bronze hang in there. You'll find a lot of people that have had success after 3 or 4 attempts. I know some where it happened on their 9th attempt. From memory think mine was about the 5th or 6th attempt.
It's just the hugest waiting game. Good luck.:pray:

Hun, big hugs!!!!! In regards to the 2WW, all I can say to you, go with the flow (I know it's easier said than done) think as positive as you can (even harder to do!) and try not to make everything about the 2WW, iykwim? The way I coped with my 2WW, was not to expect too much and I tried not to think too much about being in the 2WW. I got pg on the first go back in 2008 (unfortunaltely I lost my wee man at 21 weeks, not IVF related though, I had a huge fibroid) and then I had a FET last year in July from the same cycle and now have a one month old little man. I remember from both transfers, I just didin't expect too much and I went ahead with my life not making the 2WW EVERYTHING! It worked! I really hope it works for you hun, I have everything crossed for you and I wish you every success in this cycle!!!!

Beata x

Hi Bronze :hug:
We have a thread for LT TTC success stories where some of our members have kindly shared their experiences - you might find it interesting.
You will also find our LT TTC and Assisted Conception chatter thread very welcoming.
All the best~~

Bronze hang in there!

I found out last week that I was 4 weeks pregnant - 5 weeks today. This was my fifth go of IVF and I have to say i never expected it this round........nor did i even have that much enthusiasm for this cycle. Last year I dropped to 2 days a week to focus more on the IVF etc (it was my complete focus for 12+ months) and after no success, I got back into my job (which requires a lot of travel). We have also just finished a large reno/extension and between work, travel, and moving back into this house, I gave no hope to this cycle. Because of this, I stayed away from forums, had a drink every night etc etc, continued life as if nothing was different and BANG we go it (obviously still a way to go though)!!! I couldn't believe it. I had told my clinic that I wasn't interested in doing this cycle but I'd do it anyway for my husbands sake....... Keep your chin up!!

(hope i haven't rabbited on too much!!)

Hi Bronze,
The TWW is horrible and it is hard to know how to feel - am much I tried to keep them 'normal' I always found myself obsessing. I wish that there was a magic spell to make them go faster and be easier, but I dont think that there is. You just take it a day at a time and try and maintain 'normallity'.

As for success, we got our BFP on our fifth transfer - it was a FET, after two fresh and two other FET. We too had two embies put back, and have a wonderful little son.

Good luck.
FG

:hug:oh sweety you poor thing,
BUT please never give up we have girls i here that have been through 15 cycles and are now pregnant ,it can happen hun stay strong and positive ,talk to your embies all the time and let them know your ready for them (might sound silly )but everything helps,rest,take it easy or just go about life as normal thats what i did after my last fet just acted normal,cleaned the house run round like a crazy lady lol and it worked:D
it took us 3x ivf and 2x fet so it does happen hunny hang in there.

I just wanted to say a huuugggee thank you for your replies, it helps so much to hear of others who have similar experiences, and I love to hear your success stories, gives me hope.

I have had a complete emotional rollercoaster this time around, 2 days after the FET, I cried for about 2 hours after work and I am struggling to think positively. I keep thinking that it is a neg obviously I am trying to prepare myself for the worst. I normally find that I react to the progesterone pessaries, the last 3 times I have always had sore breasts etc, but this time nothing, so confused!

But anyway enough rambling, thank you again soo much, i will not give up hope and I truly appreciate the support and the sharing! :D

Bronze it cna happen hun :hug:
We had success on first try to find it was suspected blighted ovumm at 8 weeks. Third try we out two back in and got our DS. I know the TWW is the worst form of torture! Wanted to wish you all the very best. Also, it you can acupuncture does amazing things for ones relaxation/stress relief. I personally believe it helped DS stick! Goodluck! Rach xx

Hey Bronze - we had two failed transfers (1 fresh, 1 frozen) before this last frosty one worked. In 8 weeks time, we'll be having our little high-tech popsicle baby. He was the last embryo stuck at the back of the freezer (like last summer's icy poles!).

I'll be honest with you. 1 week into the 2WW, and I was certain it hadn't stuck. I tearfully confessed to DH that I didn't think it had worked & I was trying to ground myself in preparation of another egg harvest. About 2 days after that, I had short bursts of nausea - but put it down to eating dodgy left overs in the fridge. Then the day before the BT, I couldn't help myself & I POS'ed. I couldn't bear being told by the nurses again, and I was willing to risk a false positive. There was a tiny pale line. No squinting required - pale, but definitely there. I couldn't tell DH or mum in case it was left over hormones from the injections. I did another POS the next morning (BT day) - and this time, showed DH - same line. if the first was a false, the second line should have been lighter still or non existant. But there it was.

The next day, I was called with the best thing I had heard all year.

I wish you the very best of luck in your journey, and I will be crossing my fingers & toes for you. :)

I understand what you are going through now. The 2ww is horrible.
We had 5 unsuccessful cycles of ICSI before our 6th attempt resulted in pregnancy. I was so sure it hadn't worked again I wouldn't even take the call, I made my hubby do it, I just couldn't bear to hear negative again, but it was a POSITIVE & we now have the most beautiful 9 and half month old son - our little miracle.
Try to relax and just go about life as normal (which is easier said than done I know) Think positive thoughts and surround yourself with positive people.
GOOD LUCK Hope this time its your turn xoxox

Update

Thank you all for your support, unfortunately my results today were not good, my hcg level is only 9 so I will have another blood test on monday and then probably stop all meds and wait for a period.

I am gutted again!:shakehead:

:comfort:

Oh babe. I'm sorry. I know there's no 'right words' for this. We feel your pain and loss.

Xx

So sorry hun :hug:

Oh hun, I'm sorry that this cycle didn't work. I wish you all the luck in the world and more for your next cycle. Big hugs hun :hug: