Natural M/C started - what to expect???

Quick history -

I went to the ER yesterday as I had bleeding (wasn't flowing but had had pink discharge previously in wks 5, 8 and 10 and this was red and didn't want to wait until 12w scan (I was 10w5d) to check.

Got in quick and had blood taken, internal check, etc... was told it would be considered a threatened miscarriage. Then I got my blood work back - was told my hgc was 9,000 (should have been 25,000 - 288,000). DH is like wow 9,000 but I knew this was A LOT LESS than it needed to be and I started to cry (he quickly pick up on the vibe). In the time I was there the bleeding increased and the cramping became more intense - and in ebbs and flows (haven't had a baby but like labour in that the muscles were working then relaxing and so on).

As it is a long weekend we can't get a scan until Tuesday to confirm what we 99% already know. Dr said that time my body might try to take care of it naturally - which it has.

(Going to get a little graphic as I want to know if the worst of it is over).

So got home, cramping got worse (Dr even said take nurofen so she must be convinced of my outcome), bleeding got worse, had a cry, called the family then went to bed.

During the night I got up to go to the bathroom and it flooded out of me, like lying down was letting it pool and clot and the pad was holding it all there and just gushed into the toilet like blobs more than liquid. This happened twice and my good night was completely covered and started to overflow to my underwear by the time I woke up. Cramping was really bad throughout the night and ended up taking panadol to take the edge off the terrible cramping pains (didn't want to take anything but had become painful and couldn't get back to sleep).

My question is - is this the worst of it passed? I just thought it'd be like a period and I'm just so scared I'm going to see the baby because I was almost 11 weeks..... the dr said most don't and it is better I pass everything naturally as you don't want surgery if you don't need it - after last night I think a D&C would be less confronting but my body has started this now.

Dr said I should bleed for 7 - 10 days but I'm hoping some of you out there that have gone through this can enlighten me about what to expect in the next few days. Will the clots come out quick and then just bleed like a period???

I'm sad but almost feel like I was prepared for this in some way - or maybe my emotions haven't digested the full picture of what is happening to me.......

any tips / advise / info would be greatly appreciated - no T.M.I here - I'd like to know what to expect when you have a natural m/c

Thanks

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a natural m/c at around 8ish weeks and I had the same experience as you. However, then I found the bleeding pretty much subsided to very light and spotty only a few days after the intense bleeding. I too am about to be graphic..........I did see a sac type thing on the pad - it looked like skin, it's hard to explain so I want to warn you about that. Hope you get through this okay, thinking of you.

Firstly, I am so sorry for your loss. I am really sad to see this has happened to another person in our BB group and another person who as due on the 8th (I was too).

I had my miscarriage at about 6 weeks. Like the last person that posted I found that the majority of the blood happened in the first couple of days and then it basically went to spotting and stopped a couple of days after that.

Take care of yourself.

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks I started spotting that night I had bad cramps increased bleeding and passed the baby it was quite small. Seeing the baby actually helped me to accept that it was real. I bled for a total of 7 days after the first night the bleeding and pain tappered off. The bleeding after I passed the baby and other tissue was just Iike a period. I had a period 28 days later. I would really advise that you let your body do it naturaly having a d&C may be a distraction (unless it is absolutely necessary, if the bleeding is excessive and or goes on for an extended length of time) It will not take away the pain of losing your baby and it may actually delay the grieving that is necessary. Go gently and I hope you have supportive family and friends.

I have just come to the end of my m/c, to start of with I was just spotting, then cramping before and went on to have a lot of clotting, a couple of larger ones and a lot of smaller ones but that was only for a couple of days and then I just had what seemed like a very heavy period that teatered of just last night so now I am back to minimal spotting, I am glad that it is over and I can TTC again and that I did not have to have a d&c as I have only told a few people that I was pregnant.

Thanks to all for their replies. Had an u/s today to confirm I have had a natural miscarriage. At this stage won't need a D&C which I am happy about as I didn't want a procedure if I didn't need to.

Like many of you my first night saw the most of my heavy bleeding. I had painful cramping that came in ebbs and flows like mini contractions. After the first night the bleeding has lightened up (not even like a heavy period) but cramping has come each night.

Damprye - make sure you speak to your dr - I was told that I needed to have a regular cycle before I try to conceive again. Although you are HIGHLY fertile after a m/c you are also in a higher risk factor for another m/c before you have a regular period. Once you have that regular cycle it's game on!!!

Best of luck in your upcoming TTC journey.

I appreciate everyone's honesty in sharing their m/c experience. It helped reduce my fears and concerns in this already traumatic time.

All the best and sticky vibes to all!!!

I just want to say how sorry I am to hear of your loss :hug:

I would disagree about waiting everyone is different. Reasons for waiting may be more for emotional rather than physical reasons. I personally am in charge of my own fertility and no Doctor is going to tell me when it is on or not on. New mum how are you travelling now ?

Travelling ok - back to work tomorrow, which I think will be a good thing.

The reason the dr gave me for waiting is that sometimes the lining doesn't come back properly / thick enough after a m/c. If you wait until you've had 1 regular cycle after a m/c you are in a lower risk category for another m/c. It's not a big difference in % but the risks are higher as not all bodies recover straight away after a m/c and need a 2nd cycle to prepare.

I agree it's a personal choice and the dr I saw today said as soon as you're ready (straight away if we please). So even dr to dr differ on that. Personally, I think I'll wait the month - am happy to wait 4 more weeks so I can repare emotionally and physically and I think if I was pregnant again in a couple of weeks it would be too close for me. My husband and I are young and we got pregnant the 1st month of TTC. I can understand that others who are in a different situation might like to strike while the irons hot, and you are meant to be super fertile straight after (I was warned just thinking about getting pregnant can be dangerous hehehe).

Unfortunately conceiving is a risky game so you need to play the odds that you are happy with, of course there's still no guarantees though.

I am still getting a bit of cramping - seems to come on each night. Not passing any larger clots now and the u/s confirmed that the bulk of everything had passed and just the lining there. I'm at day 5 of bleeding so am hoping this is about the half way mark. It's really just like a period now, not even a heavy one.

Thanks again for everyone's kind thoughts, it has been an experience and I've learnt a lot - especially about myself and the strength I didn't realise I have. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy but for those unfortunate enough to have to go through this I hope you find the same positives in the overall bad situation that I did. I am glad my body recognised that something had gone wrong and dealt with it effectively. I'm not sure how I would have gone if I had to have made that choice and my hat goes off to those who have. Bad things can happen for good reasons and I trust that although this has been heart breaking that maybe the alternative if it had gone ahead and maybe to full term might have been worse.

I'm sure many partners out there will be looking at the positives side my husband has found - MORE BABY MAKING!!!!! (1st Trimester did leave me in the 'not in the mood, too sick' category more often than not).

I believe everything happens for a reason. This was just part of my TTC journey and I know my next pregnancy will be appreciated on another level - I might even find a way to appreciate the morning sickness!!!!

Best of luck, baby dust and sticky vibes to all TTC ladies out there. Hopefully we will join together in a belly belly group soon!!!

I hope all goes well with going back to work and it isn't too hard for you to tell everyone and talk about your baby that didn't stay with you. Wise words there emotionally I was a big mess for about a year afterwards but was ready to try again but then we were older and had multiple fertility problems so differenbt circumstances and challenges. Your right about things happening for a reason even if we dont understand why they happen. I later had a still birth and found it easier than having a miscarriage after the still birth I concieved without having a period and carried that baby to term he was born at home in water and yes it is makes it easy to appreciate even morning sickness getting up at night for breastfeeds, sleep deprivation and all the little discomforts of pregnancy.