suprise baby no 3

hi all well got a bfp while we were on holidays 2 weeks ago im over the moon:dance: but hubby not so sure he already haas 2 from prev marriage and now we are expecting bubs no 3

im not too sure how he really feels he says what happenedd has happened :wall: so i can understand where he is comming from but the one thing that is really annoying me is that he is scared of what his mother is going to say she keeps asking him when are you going to get the snip you dont need any more kids you have enough.. which i get me and dh have spoken about this i am only 24 and he is 42 and i really dont like the idea of it being done cause it is so final not that i though he would change his mind but once its done its done.. so now all im worried about is that he is not going to be happy about this cause of his mum!!

he is also worried about his other 2 kids weather it is going to affect them as they dont live with us they only come every 2nd weekend if they feel like... me being a little emotional said they will just have to deal with it which i went to bed angry at him.. but woke up the next day and realise what i had said and how i was over reacting and was really angry about his mum ..

so im guessing im really asking what can i do to help them all get grip of the idea im currently only 6 weeks pregnant but will tell kids and parents at 10 weeks

Hello,

Firstly, Congratulations on your pregnancy.. You seem really happy!!

as for the other stuff... I would talk to DH and explain that you really want this baby and if you and him are truely happy and in love then this is only going to bring more love to your relationship.

As for the kids, sounds like there is a bit of a story there, they also sound older so maybe they will be happy or not.. I dont have older kids so I really cant make any suggestions..

as for the mil, well she will need to accept it and get over her mood. If you and DH want this baby then she just has to deal with the cards she gets.. Hence why being a mother means you love your child unconditionaly!..

my parents didnt want us to have a second. They didnt even congatulate us when we told them. But at the end of the day Im their daughter and this is their grandchild. They give me unconditional love and support..

Enjoy your moment!! No point in stressing or getting angry over it. What will be will be..

Firstly congratulations on your pgcy. I am currently expecting number 6, so you could imagine the sort of things that somepeople are going to say to us IRL. :shakehead: It would be nice for those we care about be happy for us, but you need to remember one thing. Once that bub arrives everyone changes, and they may even feel abit guilty for being so negative. What I can gather this is your 1st but your DH's 3rd, what is wrong with your MIL. I would hope your DH doesnt listen to his mother and get the snip. Did you and your DH have the understanding that kids would be on the cards one day? If so then he shouldnt be worried about what anyone says. This is your child together and should be celebrated.
Congratulations again hun, and enjoy this precious gift both you and your DH have been given. hugs

Congratulations!! Enjoy enjoy enjoy your pregnancy!!! This is wonderful news babe and you sound very excited :D ...... your MIL will just need to get over it!! And dh should be embracing this wonderful time with you and not be so concerned about his mother!!! Sorry don't mean to sound harsh - but how wonderful a little precious bundle is on the way!!!

Congratualtions on bubs darl. I have to say you and I are like twins lol, I am 23 and my partner is 45 has two kids to previous x wife and had vesectomy done. Had a reversal but didnt work so we went through IVF, you need to tell your husband if he wants the vasectomy after you have bub then it can be very very permanent. He needs to understand that. We told the kids when I was about 16 weeks I think because we thought they would react badly but you know what, they then told us oh can we come and stay in the holidays? While they were here they were chosing names and looking at buba clothes with me and were completely different children.

As for your MIL I would not worry, you are happy and you deserve to be, I know how hard it can be. Just let her know this is another grandchild for her and another precious child for your husband I am sure they will see it soon, shock can take over for a few weeks xoxo stay strong, this is a happy time for you all.

aww thanks for your support

it has been overwhelming
yes i have been super excited and i always wanted 3 kids but thought i would be fair to dh as he already has 2 so i though fair to be fair
CSAB this is dh and my 3rd child and DH 5th so we have a house hold when dh kids decide to come for the weekend

i have told dh that once it vesectomy is done it is done and i dont like that idea!!

babytalk it is great to know that there are others out there in a realationship like me i love beining in it more than anything and people look down on you like no tomorrow but when it comes down to it age is just a number you dont look at a person and say you are ??? i know everyone that we have come across say that there are only a few year diff between us wich is good but at the same time that makes me feel OLD!! LOL

anyway i will be talking to dh tonight and thanks once again for all your support oxox

Thats wonderful hun that it is your 3rd, sorry I was sort of in two minds when you posted.(re how many kids between you and DH), wasnt sure if this was your 1st or your 3rd TBH. The comments from family and friends may continue but try and ignore it. This little bub is going to be just as much loved by you and your DH as well as the other members of your family once he/she is born. GL with having another talk to DH tonight. I hope you have a H & H pgcy. Hugs

congratulations wishing you a H&H pregnancy