Sad, diff TTC and I am BF, do I need to wean?

Hi everyone,

My son is about 27 months old and I would love to be pregnant again.
Problem is i have difficulty conceiving/ staying pregnant.

Everyone is telling me to stop breastfeeding.
That makes me really sad as I love it so much and find it very natural and DS is a true addict.
Do I really have to give it all up? I will if it means I will get a BFP!

i used acupunture to get pregnant last time, and even they are telling me to wean DS!

Why is it that everyone is so weird about BF a toddler (mind you I was before becoming a mum, but also thought each to their own)?

Thanks for your replies!

I was in exactly the same boat as you. I was still BF my 2yr old DD. I had been not preventing pregnancy for 12months (although AF had not returned at that stage) when it returned we actively were ttc for 9months and nothing. Very weird when I had fallen pregnant instantly with DD 3yrs earlier and was 25 at the time. The Drs said they didn't even class that time I was ttc when BF as really trying as it was probably preventing me from falling pregnant anyway so wouldn't do anything not even BTs to confirm I was Oing until 12months after she was weaned.

I did wean DD when she was 25months old and did fall pregnant that next cycle although m/c very early at 5 and abit weeks. I then fell pregnant 3month later again however this time it was ectopic and my tube was removed. I have not been pregnant since and its almost 12months now since my last pregnancy (15months since weaning DD). When I had my lap to remove the pregnancy and tube they discovered why I hadn't been able to fall pregnant and why since I haven't been able to. BF obviously had nothing to do with me not been able to concieve although I did fall pregnant twice after weaning. I don't know if the weaning had anything to do with that but I doubt it as my cycles did not chance after DD was weaned. Now weaning her just adds to the regret that I weaned when neither of us were ready and really it didn't help me have another baby. After all this is turns out DH also has a sperm problem which has contributed to my m/c's and inability to fall pregnant as well as my own problems.

Wishing you baby dust vibes soon and for you to beable to continue to enjoy BF your DS for as long as you both desire.

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If you're having regular cycles it's unlikely breastfeeding will affect your fertility - if it did, you wouldn't be ovulating regularly.
It's a tricky one, truly. If you weaned and fell pregnant right away, you'd probably feel ok about it. But if you didn't, you may well end up feeling regret about it.
Have you spoken to the ABA? They might have some resources on this, which could help you in making your decision.
All the best & good luck ttc - hope it happens for you soon and you're able to breastfeed as long as you feel is right.