help weaning and weaning off feeding to sleep...

for my mental and physical well being i really need to either wean DD 15 months off feeding to sleep or weaning all together :( imso not ready but she becoming extremely diffecult.
any advice appreciated :(

Hun, you have had such a hard time :hug: Have you been trying to night wean already? If so, what have you tried?

I think I have given you my best ideas already, but I'll keep thinking to see what else I can come up with :hug:

It's a tough decision to make. I found it was easier to wean off feeding to sleep during the day, by giving dd a feed and then letting her play and watching for the sleep signs and getting her into her cots as soon as she was tired. It seemed to work better than trying at night.

:hug:

Can I suggest calling the ABA? You never know, the counsellor you speak to may just have some more ideas for you. I know how hard things are for you, but I also know that you yourself are not ready to wean her, so I'm hoping you can find a solution that doesn't involve that just yet.

One thing I did to stop the feed-sleep association at bed time was to give DS his evening feed out in the loungeroom, then we'd go through to the bedroom for books and bed. It took a while for him to accept this, but did seem to help.
Removing myself from the bedtime equation also helped a bit.
During the day I just didn't do it - sounds 'd'uh' I know, and he was not a happy camper at first, but I couldn't figure out a way to gradually cut it out.
Take care of yourself :hug:

:hug: hun. I think you can find a way to stop bfing to sleep and still bf. You say that DH has a better time of it settling her to sleep, so how about trying marcellus's suggestion. We always did bf in the lounge, then book and tuck in bed, kiss, goodnight. Get DH to do everything after the bf (if at all possible). How is her ear infection? Have you thought about getting a second opinion on whether she can have grommets (my cousin's DD2 had them put in at about 12 mths and hasn't had a single infection since after three/four in a couple of months - she's in Melb)?

i spoke to Barb last night and im definatly going to get a referal for a ENT re grommets, if the say no then at least ive tried that avenue, she also thinks there may be an allergy issues (were off to the natraupath on wednesday for that) so really until we get some sort of answer, i'll keep feeding which is what i want, as she said night weaning isnt a quick process, it will take weeks. jen i think the ear is better, she slept better last night, up just once, took a while (an hour) to get her back to sleep, but i lay down beside her which seems to be helping

That sounds like a really good plan hun :). Glad you got to speak to Barb, she's wonderful, isn't she? Good luck today xoxo

:hug: Sounds like you have a plan. GL!