Co-sleeping and bed rail.......help please!

Hi fellow co sleepers :)

We are sharing our bed with our newest DS (as well as the big one). DS1 has been a co-sleeper since about 8 months, although it is now very much part time, not even every night, just when he wants to come in to us. So I'm new to this co sleeping with a little baby! The way it seems to work best is for DS1 to be in the middle when he comes in, and DS2 on the other side of me. This means that he can BF without us having to reshuffle (I only have one boob that works well, which is on that side).

ATM I have the bassinette pushed up against the bed, JIC he rolls (not likely now, but I know it will happen one day). I would prefer to use a bed rail, but am unsure...........is this considered safe for when he IS rolling? What sort should I use? Does anyone have any suggestions for me?

I can't believe I feel like such a novice with this, given that we adore co-sleeping with our big boy :) But he only did it really from 9 months, and then only part time until about 16 months when he was in our bed all the time. So yeah, we're loving it, but we need some tips! TIA

could you swap sides with DH so that DS2 is in the middle?....I used one of those triangle pillows for the outter side and I think cause tank was in our bed from day dot he sort of knew IFYKWIM
I have high bedside cabinets too so they sort of acted like a rail.

You could always get one of those child safety rails and put that there. Pity I live so far away because ive got one here doing nothing that I could give you

I'm not sure... I do believe it's gaps and things that you need to be careful of. I don't know what the gap with a bedrail would be like (DD's bedrails aren't up any more.. so can't remember).

We coslept tho by having DD in an armsreach cosleeper cot, and then DS was welcome to come into the middle of our bed if he woke up. DD was in the armsreach for longer than usually recommended as she was still wrapped for a long time and didn't move around. Whereas they say once they're rolling and on the move not to use it cos they can get out and fall off your bed. By the time she outgrew the cot and came between us (around 8 months i think??) then if DS came he just squeezed onto the edge on my side. Not comfortable for all night sleeping I can tell you... so this was when I started taking him back to his own bed if it was too early in the night. If it's around 5.30 am or something he can stay haha. And it's still this way at the moment! DD is between us most nights once she comes in, and DS come in early morning. Squishy, but lovely :)

But yeah.. can't really help with the bedrail sorry. I'd probably be inclined to put bub in the middle and have the toddler on the outside if we were doing it without the cosleeper cot.

How big is your bedroom? We had DS in a single bed on my side of the king bed and DD in the middle. With DH no longer here, DS is refusing to sleep in the single bed and is on DH side. DD is on the single bed (most nights) with a side rail. It may be an option to have a narrow single bed as extra width rather than a side rail on your bed if you have the room. DS2 will either be in a safe sleeper in between DS and I (I don't see him moving out any time soon :() or in the safe sleeper on the single bed if DD decides to migrate back to the middle of the bed.

The cot is our bed rail...... and storage room LOL!!!

Our bed rail doesn't leave any gap, its really tight on the bed and I feel safe with it there. I have DS2 on the rail side most of the time as I'm concerned DH isn't as aware of him as I am.

darl i have a rail you can borrow to try if you like, its on the actually sits on top of the mattress ITMS

Oh that would be great thanks Olive! I don't think I understand :lol: but it sounds good :).

I would love to have the cot next to the bed, but although it would fit, it would mean that we couldn't get into the ensuite! So that also rules out a single bed ;). I hadn't thought of using one of those little beds, but TBH, I don't really want to. I'm really happy with how we snuggle up now, I don't want to change that if I don't have to. I know I could change sides with DH, but I honestly don't think I could do it. I HAVE to sleep on that side of the bed, or I can't sleep. I know that sounds crazy :redface:.

Thank you so much for all your suggestions and advice, I really appreciate it :D