just had a missed miscarriage

Hi. I just joined this site and have just experienced a MMC. I was meant to be 11wks and went for my 1st ob appointment only to find out the baby was lost at 7-8wks. I now realise how devastating it feels, the intense sadness. I feel for all those who have been through this too. It's such a shock and you try to hard to find reasons but there are none.
I didn't realise how physically painful it was going to be and then after that subsided the emotional pain set in.

Sending all my heartfelt sympathy to anyone who has lost their little ones.

Hun, I am so sorry for your loss. It is such a hard and emotional time losing such a precious little creation. Please be kind to yourself at this time and allow yourself to grieve this little Angel bubba. Big hugs.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a blighted ovum and had to have a D&C at 10 weeks 4 days. I too didn't know untill I had a scan. Take the time to grieve.

I am so very sorry for the loss of your little one :hug: my situation was very similar, and the shock and pain and sadness is so very real. Be gentle on yourself and give yourself time to grieve. I am sorry it is under such sad circumstances you have come to BB but you will find you are surrounded by many people who sadly know how you're feeling and can help you get through one day at a time :comfort:

Thankyou all for your kinds words and thoughts. I keep thinking I need to get back to work quickly but haven't found the energy to go in yet. My boss has been very understanding though. I feel a bit like I've let everyone down as my family were all so excited about this pregnancy. I know that's crazy but right now that's what's going thru my head.
I know all these feelings will subside, I'm just in a hurry for them to ease. Thanks again for allowing me to write down my feelings, I think it helps to know you are not alone and feelings are 'normal'.

Hi December2010

I feel the same. Like I've let everyone down. This one would have been DH first baby and his parents first grandchild so i can feel your pain. It's perfectly normal to feel that way so don't beat yourself up over it. It does get easier.

Thanks for your support!

So sorry to hear that you are going through this pain.
My first pregnancy also ended in a missed miscarriage. I went to my ultrasound at 13 weeks to be told the awful news. I found going back to work really difficult as a work collegue was 4 weeks ahead of what I would have been with my pregnancy. Like you my pregnancy was also the first on both families, we had only told them I was pregnant the day before as the Dr had told me everything was fine, I just wanted the ultrasound to see the bub so I too felt really bad, guilty etc. As others have said be gently with yourself.
You mentioned you don't know when it will hit you, for myself 4 weeks after my D&C I had my first period, I think I had a breakdown at work, it was like the final confirmation for me that I wasn't pregnant, plus I think my hormones were all over the shop a bit too.
It slowly got better after that moment though.

(((hugs))) Im so sorry for your loss. Its been a week today since my d&c and im still up & down but wanted to send you hugs

No rush to get back to work, mate. Have you had a d & c, or is that still to come? Either way, your hormones settle down a bit a couple of days later, and things get a bit easier to bear. For now, turn your phone off (unless you want to call someone) put your jarmies on, boil the kettle and look after yourself.

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. Nobody should have to.

:hug: I am so very sorry..

I have had 2 MMC and I don't have to tell you how I felt when I was told..

Anyways I hope you find the support you are after on here.. There are some great ladies (and men) on here