Pregnant after recurrent miscarriage

I've got a BFP, BHCG is at 2800 mark at 5 weeks feel like death warmed up and sore all over.

I had my first son fine, then 3 miscarriages, one at the half way mark, a blighted ovum at 10 weeks and one at 5 weeks, it's been 4 months since my last m/c.

Everytime I feel the slightest tiniest bit of CM I run to the toilet checking for blood, every cramp brings a chill, every twinge = STRESS. When do you stop stressing? I can't help but hope they'll stitch me shut and put me into a monitored coma 24/7 till I pop, then they can wake me.

Ultrasound next Friday, specialist Thursday. Do you ever stop stressing or is it only when bubs has made 18 years old you take a short breath before all the new stresses of them entering the world without mum :) hehe

Hi there,

I too am pregnant after 4 m/c (My first baby girl was a stress free, normal pregnancy)

1st was a missed m/c at 9 week (baby had not progressed from 7 weeks)
2nd at 4.5 weeks
3rd at 7 weeks
4th at 6 weeks

I am now 7 weeks pregnant and terrified. I cant tell you when or if you will ever stop stressing, but I just wanted to say hang in there and think positive.
This time I have tried accupuncture and I am taking Royal Jelly and lots of other vitamins!
Wishing you all the best, try your hardest not to stress and try to enjoy your pregnancy

Hi Alana,

Thank you for sharing your story and I'm very sorry to hear you've had lots of little angels yourself. We must be due around the same time, I'm January 20th which is when my little boy was due last year I lost half way not sure if it's a bad omen or not :S

I've not heard of Royal Jelly, any good and what is it? lol :)

How are you finding the accupuncture? Lets hold hands and rock back and forth in a corner together and pray like mad for super glue sticky vibes :)

Yes, we are due around the same time, my due date is 17th Jan. Our stories are VERY similar, my first angel baby would have been due on the 10 Jan last year too. I have been trying to decide whether it was a bad omen, or something trying to tell me that we wernt just ready yet....

Royal Jelly is a wonderful natural (somewhat expensive) product. You should google it, there is heaps of info on the net about it

"Royal jelly is produced specifically for queen bees in a bee colony and has been linked to fertility for centuries. The gel-like substance contains amino acids and hormones thought to aid fertility as well as vitamins and minerals that may help with a healthy pregnancy. "

I started the accupuncture because I was sick of everyone saying "its just a case of bad luck". I felt that I should be actively doing something to help myself so I started a/p. I find it relaxing and they can help with all the symptoms of pregnancy too.

Are you feeling a lot of preg symptoms at the moment? Im feeling really tired and a bit queasy every now and then.


Lots of sticky vibes to you! Where abouts are you based?

I had a reading that told me I'd have twins in summer so we will see if it's a good omen that they're due at the same time :S. I hope yours is a good omen soon and we are both holding happy little bundles soon (but not too soon!).

I went to the specialist and got all sorts of tests done, then went to a haemotologist, an immunologist etc (as each time I MC I nearly bleed to death and they can't stop the bleeding). But everything came back normal, they don't know why it happens and they don't know why I bleed so badly. My ob suggested placenta acreta as a possible reason for having problems bleeding and told me it's not safe for me to have a baby anywhere but a Sydney hospital (gives you hope in the medical system). Which I agree with because I went to the hospital here when I was losing my boy at 17 weeks and they sent me home saying there was still a heart beat I was fine even though my waters had broken and I was having cramps every 2 minutes. I then lost him in the bathroom and nearly bled to death :(.

I've been feeling really sick and dizzy my BHCG was 2800 at 5 weeks, hoping it is a good sign! Royal Jelly sounds like it's good stuff, I've just been sticking to the Blackmores pregnancy tablets and eating lots of avocado and mushrooms as mushies are meant to help with hormones too.

I get sick of being told I've had a "bad run"/"bad luck" "it was for the best" "it's natures way" "the baby wasn't ready" etc, it's very demeaning and minimalises the grief surrounding the loss of babies. I don't share the belief of some people that a baby isn't alive till it's born, for me as soon as that heart starts beating it is a person. MC 2 & 3 there was never a heart beat so it was more disappointing than devistating, for MC 1 it was a person and to me I lost a son I felt him kick and heard his heart beat and he had little boy bits, fingers, toes, was just a tiny baby that fit in my hand.

Lots of sticky vibes to you as well I really hope we both make it through, I'm really emotional today and yesterday crying on and off and wanting to vomit and feel really dizzy, I felt that way with my first child too so Im hoping it means strong hormones doing their thing!

I'm in central west nsw, start at sydney, turn west and drive for about 3 hours :) You?

Sorry for taking so long to reply, I have had my mum visiting and have been running around like a mad woman!

Im so sorry about your loss, that would have been horrific and scary!

So, I had an U/S at 7 weeks and everything was really good. Then after the u/s all my pregnancy symptoms went away and I was so so so worried. I had a mad moment and demanded another u/s at 8 weeks (which they did) and thankfully everything was ok, strong heartbeat (169 bpm). I cant believe how stressful this is!!!!

How are you going? Im hoping all is well with you too.

Im in Melbourne, will be having this bub at Francis Perry

i was really pleased to find your thread and see that it is not an old, outdated one! im pregnant with my third, first two lost to miscarriage, first a blighted ovum.
im on the miscarriage management program at sydney ivf and they seem to think it is just bad luck. we are not even 5 weeks yet but i am finding it hard to stop worrying and looking for every sign, some days i have strong pregnancy symptoms and feel reassured, other times they lessen and i start to worry. hcg tests have all been great so far.
just wondering if this is a similar experience to anyone else and if they have any tips to stop stressing?
thanks

Hi Ladies, I dont think there is a time when you actually do stop stressing, well not at least when you are pregnant! I had 5 normal, trouble free pregnancies and then I had my first m/c, the doctor just put it down to my age and the fact that there may have been something wrong with the baby! I got over that m/c, the first one is a shock, but you never think you will go through it again.....hmmm.....didnt I find out otherwise! I fell pg again without too much trouble at all, but unfortunately I m/c that baby too, it was truly a very sad time for me, two m/c's in a row!!! That shouldnt happen to anyone! Well, once again I got over that m/c and thought I would be safe now, but I was to be proved wrong yet again! I fell pg again (to my new/current partner) and we were so excited (it wouldve been his first). At 11 weeks I started bleeding and I knew all too well what was about to happen, even though I did try to be optimistic. So, m/c#3 and I think that one was the hardest one of all, no one should have to go through a m/c, let alone a number of them!
We decided to go to an OB and I had test after test, dp had tests too and after I had a d&c (the OB thought I should seeing as though I never had one after I had my m/c's) I managed to fall pg again. I was terrified, I went to the doctor and had an early u/s, I had beta draws taken for a couple of weeks and even when I heard the h/b with the doppler, I still was scared.... I even went through a stage where the only colour undies I would wear was white, that way I could see if there was any spotting more easier. We didnt tell anyone I was pg until after I had my 12wk u/s and everything was fine with bubs at that u/s, so then we let everyone know.
But the stressing and worrying didnt stop til I had that little girl snuggled up in my arms after I gave birth. I would watch to see if she was breathing all the time as I knew I couldnt lose her now, I actually had another baby without losing it to m/c! Miracles do happen and my little miracle is now currently 20 months old and giving me and her family so much pleasure, each new day she makes us smile in some way. We love her to bits and we are so glad and lucky to have her.

I sure hope things work out for all of you who are pg and have had losses in the past. I found that my doppler was my best friend once I was able to find bubs h/b at around 9 weeks, if I was ever worried, I would get the doppler out and listen intently to bubs h/b, very reassuring and that helped me get through a lot, at least until I started getting movements anyway. Once I got movements, I started to stress a little less.

All the best to you all and Ill send you heaps of sticky vibes so that your LO's stay put til the are good and ready ;)

roayal jelly works really well (its just bad if you have any sort of allergies to bees you could actually die from it ) but it does work really well. I dont think that the stress ever will go away until you have your baby in your arms.