I Don't Know What To Say or Do

DP and I sent out our wedding invitations the other day and handed immediate family theirs (saves on postage when you see them every week)
Nobody got a +1
DP's youngest sister reads the invitation, and says "Don't I even get the option of bringing someone?" and has automatically assumed she will be allowed to bring someone. DP has said that he wouldn't mind if it is her best friend, but she wants to bring her new boyfriend of a couple of months and the IL's have said they will pay for him. The money isn't the issue, it is more the fact they assume they can just add someone into our wedding.

Am I overreacting or would you consider it rude? Or have we/I been rude in not opening the invitation for her to bring someone?

Hope all that makes sense... Thanks.

No don't let them! We have a no plus 1 rule. If you wanted to add to your wedding numbers I am sure like us, you would chose your friends not other peoples!!! Grrr pet hate of mine. Stand your ground its your wedding! xxx

I would be annoyed!!

Neither of my brothers brought friend or girlfriend to wedding and no single friends had invite for plus 1.

I think its rude ti expect to add people.

DH cousin pulled out 2 days before wedding long story but she stuffed me around, so I told SIL she could bring her then boyfriend of 5 mins and they broke up 6 weeks after wedding grrr

say no! stuff 'em!
its your wedding - the day you want to share with the people who mean the most to you and your DP. we ended up with a few ring-ins at our wedding due to some a *lovely* aunt and uncle pulling out 48 hrs before the big day.

...and do it now and use the preg. hormones as a reson for lack of tact ;) ...

Thanks girls!
Feeb - that's the reason DP would rather she bring her best friend if anyone as we know she has been around for a long time and is more family than a current boyfriend... she made the comment back in December (actually both SIL-to-be and her best friend did) that she would be coming to our wedding! I wouldn't mind soo much but I have never had that much to do with her, unlike the rest of DP's family who she is close to

Grrr just makes me mad because between the wedding and bub being due, everything is still about them or bub, not US

Dansta - you posted as I was writing... I don't think it would fly with them, they'd just bring them still and expect that the seat be there... there isn't even enough room to put another person at the table!!!

I never get why people just assume they can bring "a date" to a special occasion like a wedding. She's being rude. Stick to your plan. In 50 years you will be the ones reminiscing about your wedding, not her.

hahaha! No one understands the + 1 until they actually plan their own wedding.

I to would tell her no! Thats just rude.We to have our wedding in Aug and we havent added any +1. We want everyone at our wedding to be people we know well and have know for a long time and that in 5 years time can look back and know were all still in touch. No passa byers for us.I think its rude to just assume you can bring a +1.

I think I'll stick to my guns, but I think DP will cave and let her bring someone so as to keep the peace.... he's too nice for his own good sometimes!
Friends are getting married in October and their rule is unless you've been with someone for more than 6months, they don't get an invite. Some say it's harsh, but when you consider the cost of feeding someone for one night that might not be around 2weeks later, but is forever in photographs etc of YOUR day it just isn't worth it.
I think it's just made harder by it being family and there are certain members who will hold a grudge over little stuff like this!

Hell no. This is YOUR wedding, so invite whomever you'd like to share the day. I agree with the 6 months or more thing. You don't want some ring-in sharing one of the most intimate days of your life.

We couldn't have fitted people in if they'd brought +1 - it was a expensive squeeze with the guests we could fit. Though we did have someone we fitted in at the last minute (ie, the day before), but that was our choice, not pressure from someone else.

DF and I are currently planning our wedding and i have been wondering about the whole +1 thing. most of our friends are in a relationship and have been for a while, but the ones that are single i was thinking of leting them bring a friend if they didnt really know anyone else.

sorry to highjack your post. i say stick to your guns, if you don't know or get along with her current bf or best friend then dont give them an invite.