I just realised this is me.......

I was just reading a thread about VBAC risks, and suddenly realised that if I were to have another baby, I would be needing to know this stuff! I look at that stuff all the time, but have never once applied it to myself, if that makes sense???? Just read it casually, it's always happening to someone else.

I am totally at peace and okay with my caesar with DS2. I know in my heart it was totally warranted, and it was a beautiful experience. The recovery wasn't as bad as I'd anticipated. So although I also loved my VB with DS1, I find myself wondering what I would want to do in the event of a future pg. Knowing that a VBAC is often/usually safer than a repeat c/s would sway me for sure.

But it still feels weird..........after one VB I never expected to be in this position. Does that make sense?

I kind of know what you mean... I had 2 VBs & then a CS, and didn't expect any more kids. And DH said to me as we left the hospital with DS2 'you can't have any more kids anyway, you would have to have another CS'
And I said 'oh, I don't think so...I'm sure you don't have to...' but I didn't really think about it as we thought there wouldn't be any more.
And I didn't think about it for years....

And then along came Pie ;)....

I'm a bit opposite, I've always applied that sort of info to myself ;)
One thing you do have going for you though janie, is the fact that you've already had a VB means you are extremely likely to be successful with VBAC. There would be no doubt in your bodies ability to birth vaginally, which can make a HUGE difference with your confidence, and that of your health care providers too.

I keep wondering about this. I think the fact that we're pretty sure we're not having anymore kids, but not 100% decided makes it hover around the edges of my brain. (Although DH says he IS 100% decided ;)) Mamaspice, you are right that having already birthed vaginally will impact positively on my confidence. It's the other stuff I worry about.....what if we have the same pregnancy issues, and that leads to having another c/s? Not that c/s is the worst in the world, but I do think it took me longer to bond with DS2 because of his birth. I still loved him, and wanted to protect him, but it took longer to feel that connection, IYKWIM? And then there's all the breastfeeding stuff!

Hmmm, I wouldn't say I stress about it, just it's on my mind a bit, if that makes sense. It's the unknown I think! And a big part of that unknown is whether I will even have to worry about it at all. I know we should be finished with having kids, and I know it's for the best, but I have just have this feeling that we're not done. I think that's for another thread, I'm just rambling now :p

I know what you mean, and I worry of going for a VBAC and the risks or going with another c/s and the risks. I guess what makes me less stressed about the decision of another c/s (if I were to have another baby, which I don't think I will) is that I'm aware of the process now, so I could plan for that, prepare for it (because obviously, even though there is always a possibility of c/s with any birth, it's higher after you've already had one).

This is me too hun.
After a VB with DS1, never thought i'd be having a cs second time around. I always wanted 3 children, but DH says we are finished with that now.
Having had a cs and not ever wanting to go there again makes me wonder if i really could have another child.
I'm not stressing either, but it is just a little thought in my mind sometimes.

Great thread I will be reading with great interest now x

I think I get what you mean. With every baby I had I begged to have a VB and was refused....a huge feeling of defeat sweeped over me everytime.
I dont however think it should turn anyone off having children though. Educating yourself is one thing but at the end of the day if your baby need's to be born via c/s it will be taken out of your hands. No its not a pleasant road to walk down and every c/s is different...all 4 of mine have been.

Even though my shop is closed, I often think about having a dream VB