after a lovely chat i had today ;) i really need to find something i can do for me, so
what do you do to maintain who you are apart from mother/wife etc...
something thats just for you...
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after a lovely chat i had today ;) i really need to find something i can do for me, so
what do you do to maintain who you are apart from mother/wife etc...
something thats just for you...
I'm taking up roller derby - wanna come?
It can get a little hard to get out by myself but I do meet up with friends as much as is possible, and I have found blogging to be really really good for me because I enjoy writing and I'm hoping to get better at it.
I struggle with this too so I would love some suggestions!
I go to work.. I love my job and I love just being "Kate" for a few hrs.. silly I know but its me time..
you serious! i'll come watch, ive been wanting to go to roller derby!:
oh and i love your blog
kate i had/have my volunteer work, but with the girls sick so often at the moment i havent been for so long :( that was my time out, although it was helping others, i need to do something for me and not others
I go out for drinks with my girlfriends and go shopping once a week with my sister - no kids or men.
Lots of things!
I have drinks with friends
I LOVE shopping in kitchenware stores
I get a monthly massage
On Tuesdays I now go to a meditation group
I collect Cookbooks new & Vintage
Im just about to start my doula course.....and I have my Twilight friends lol
I go to the gym. Nuts I know, but it's seriously the only time I do NOT think about my kids at all. It's all about me. It's only for an hour at a time usually, 3 times a week if I can manage it. I also try to get out and go shopping on my own for a few hours every weekend, doesn't always happen though.
I also like to go and have my hair done or get a pedicure pretty regularly.
I do a few different things:
I go to a "group" with people on Wednesday nights
I go to a women's group once a fortnight
I work... yep that is for me (well the KA work is!)
I am glad to hear you are planning on you time darling woman! All women need it - it's not a treat it's a necessity!
Well I don't have much child free time AT ALL any more. Finny doesn't go to his Dad & the girls only see the FW for 2 hours a week. So my time is very sparse.
I wrangle child care for a couple hours of a massage a month.
I get my nails done - but usually have Immy with me!
I am writing a book (aah I don't think I've announced that one!) but I do that amidst the cyclonic existence that is my house!
I meditate twice a day - morning and night and nobody is to interrupt unless there is a fire or a man in a trench coat at the door...
I coffee with friends (a lot!) but I always have Immy...
This Friday we are having a Sex in the City night - dinner and a movie in our finest attire... I am Carrie... (of course!)
I am very social I have friends over a lot - we do dinner -afternoon tea... I rarely go out at night as I have too many kids and they don't much like being left after the famiy issues wer've had.
I get very very very tired - but mostly I am happy and content. I talk a lot on the phone. I Belly Belly. I meet up with friends but my kids are part of my life so they are usually along for the trot.
My luxury is to go to chenrezig for a meal, a catch up and a time in the Gompa - or overnight but again I've got Immy with me.
Sometimes a friend looks after Immy and I do the hair dresser and lunch with a friend - that's blissful!
I love photography and Immy, Gloria and I sometimes hit the road after school drop off and I snap away at old galvanised iron sheds...
I have a gorgeous woman who lives in a little cottage on my property and she sometimes watches the kids so I can go and listen to some music and have a meal with friends in town at the Upfront Club... That's heavenly...
I am a big believer in looking after my spirit. :hug:
I exercise, get a pedicure, go for a massage, go to 'paid' full time work - which although its work I do enjoy, I enjoy cooking (even if it is for the family), I catch up with all the lovely chics on this awesome forum I found called Belly Belly hehehe, FB, I like to read too......
Like everyone else, time alone is scarce, so its the little things that mean alot!
Aaah yes I bake. I bake like others sew... I have been known to bake an embarassing amount of cupcakes just to deal with stress... :redface:
I exercise. I have coffee or hike with friends. I get the occassional massage.
I used to have coffee with friends ALLOT, have my hair and nails done regularly and massages.
I'm a bit embarrassed to say.... I can't remember the last time I did any of these without kids in toe or at all.
I do like to have a long hot shower at least twice a week without kids in there or banging on the door etc.
It was only today we were out shopping and I saw a pair of shoes I LOVED but didn't buy because DDs needed stuff. I do need another pair but they need stuff first.
I really need to start doing more for myself. :redface:
I know exactly what you mean, especially with the embarrassing amount of cupcakes!:
I am glad someone else gets it!
One day before my marriage imploded my kids came home to 140 cup cakes all delicately decorated on the benches... I remember DD15 saying: "mum is everything okay"? Aaah a sign! The freezer was full & there was always a snack on hand! :lol:
Yep I did 120 - 130 one day LOL! But I gave them all away ;)