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DS came home from school yesterday and broke the news, he got caught smoking on the oval and has been suspended for a day. The smoking didn't surprise us, we had suspected this for a few months but getting suspended really dissapointed me. I suppose he's done well until now, so many of his friends have had multiple suspensions now, yr9 boys, I feel sorry for their teachers. I know it doesn't worry him because he gets to have a day off, I just hope he learns from this.
Regards,
Dianne
Ohhh dear, I hope he learns from this but chances are he might not as he only sees it as a day off. I have never understood how suspension is ment to help!!
Hugs xoxo
Yeah I never understood the theory behind suspension helping - who wouldnt' want a day off school at that age! LOL
I hope he learns that smoking is not cool, but lets face it - I didn't learn that until I was into my 20's ;)
My DD1 got suspended from school 2 days before the school holidays. I highly doubt she will ever get suspended again! lol
She was being bullied at school and didn't tell anyone about it (like most kids do sadly) instead, her and a friend graffitied stuff about the bully in the toilets with white out. (my daughter wrote XXX has head lice!)
My daughter got caught, the school called us and told us she was suspended for 2 days for damaging school property and for bullying. My daughter had the most boring school holidays of her life. She was made to do hers & her brothers chores every day as well as study every day and help me out with the little ones. She got 2 days off her grounding as her birthday fell in the holidays too... so she got to go to the movies with me, not her friends like she'd originally planned, and she got to have a day ice skating with her dad who came to visit her from Sydney for the day. She is actually still grounded and will be until the next school holidays. Hopefully she keeps behaving and gets off her grounding. She is usually a good little girl, and this suspension is way out of character for her.
I think suspension from school can work when the parents implement a firm punishment at home... though I would definitely prefer they did in school suspension where they sit outside the principals office all day doing school working and running errands for various teachers or the school office.
I definitely hope your son has learned his lesson too Dianne... and I agree with AE, I hope he learns smoking is gross ;)
I hope he learns from it too Dianne :hug: From everything I've read your son sounds like a really good boy overall, just going through those horrible teenage years.
FWIW I was suspended a few times at high school (:redface:) and they made me sit in an empty room off the front office all day, either doing homework or coursework the teachers would bring me, or I'd have to help the office ladies with admin stuff. I had to have morning tea and lunch breaks at different times to everyone else so I couldn't hang out with my friends. Hated it at the time, but it was a fantastic idea, much more of a punishment than being able to watch telly at home all day.
They do have an intra school suspension which would have been much more apporopriate for DS. They sit in a room on their own and do school work, he would have hated that.
Regards,
Dianne
Can you ask the school if he can do an internal suspension instead of an at-home one so it would be more effective?
The in-school suspensions have always seems way more effective (to me as a teacher) as long as the child is isolated from their friends for the day and supervised to ensure that they are working on school work rather than simply day-dreaming.
BW