settling and resettling.. 17 month old

more sleep issues for us :doh: just when it gets better, it turns yet again.

so DD has decided to scream when put to bed at night (sometimes during the day, but more often at night) its takes me ages to settle her, we were back rubbing but we've stopped that for a few reasons: our backs mainly and its taking longer and longer and not working.
so now were staying in her room and just laying her back down again, time after time after time. it can take me ages, but for DH its about 10 mins, so obviously prefers dad which would be fine but hes not always home to help, so any tips???
She is also waking in the night AGAIN... same problem same response from us, laying her back down, again can take me an hour, takes DH about 10 mins :doh: again not ideal, the most annoying thing is youo think shes gone bakc to sleep and bam up she sits :rolleyes:
its getting very frustrating, last night she woke every 40 off mins from 2.30am til 6am

Any tips or ideas to help resettle?? weve night weaned so that not an issue

What a shame DH is not always home!
What happens if you leave her? What about if you say "I'll be back in a minute" and then leave for a short time?
Door open/closed? Music? Night light? Any chance she's hungry?
I don't know why, but DS responds well to being picked up, cuddled, then put back down. I'm trying to remember what he was like back at that age, but... he woke lots and ate bananas during the night. Other than that I can't remember what helped. :dunno:

if i leave she screams, she screams if she hears the door open and i think shes asleep,
ive tried leaving te door open, worked monday night but not last night, no music, the monitor has a light on it, so have tried lighter room.darker room, not hungry because she has dinner/bath/boob/bed within a hour.
aarrrrhhhhhh might try the cuddles again.. thanks darl xxx

Yeah, DS was 21+ months before we could leave him at all without him screaming.

Leave the door open while sitting with her then sneak out when she's close to sleep?

Nah, I'm tapped out sorry

My DD had previously been a great night sleeper until about this age. She would wake a lot in the night and take forever to get back to sleep - it was driving me NUTS!! It sounds odd, but we took the sides off the cot. I'd lay down with her to put her to sleep if need be, with cuddles (although our main problem was during the night). But in the night she would come in with us if she woke. Some nights she thought it was play time and I'd take her back to her bed (sometimes cuddle with her). If she lay quietly she could stay with us. She was night-weaned during this, but sometimes would want a drink of water. Cuddles were all that worked for us. And quiet dark rooms. ;)

It must be a phase. Just about does your head in though, doesn't it!!

im hoping it just a phase!
last night and tonight i stayed with her and stood next to her head rather than down the end of the cot and she settled quicker, DH did the overnight wakeups and she resettled in minuts :dunno: what will work this week wont work next :rolleyes: