Any advice or if u Know???? Plsss

ok i have exactly 4 weeks to go and counting woot woot lol :)
so excited but i have alot of problems arriving now...

i have an appointment on tuesday and am going to have a very big talk with the mw n dr at the hospital as due to me giving birth with maybe an induction..
i dont wanna sound like i dont wanna have a natural birth but it is looking like everyhting is stacking up against me
ill tell u why i am going to ask for an induction abit early n pls let me know if u think these factors are legitimate n if u think they will assist me on this?
* my dh can only have a week off work from the 10th of november so after that his shifts are going to be on a rotating roster, so i will have to deal with my son n a new born without any help
*my mum doesnt go on holidays till december and cant get time off only for the birth which they have asked her if she knows what date so they can cover her shift?? wat the? lol
* i live 30-40 min away from the hosp. so if i go into labour or my waters break (my last labour was a total 1 hr n 40 min total) im going to be stuck with my 3 yr old son alone.
* my son isnt in school due to his behaviour issues and will not stay with anyone he doesnt know n my in laws are travelling over seas on the 17th so i wont have anyone to call or give him to unless i can garuntee a day.
*im getting to the point now where my legs and feet are starting to swell n i cant sit n relax cause my son needs constant supervision so its getting harder..

i kow these may seem like little points but im starting to worry as wat i thought was gunna be a relaxing n stress free last 4 weeks is turning into a nightmare.. lol
do u think they will induce me so i can have the help n support?
does these reasons sound legitimate to want to have the baby a bit early? its only a week or 2 but im still all over the place bout it...
pls any advice plsssssssss
oh and im having it at westmead hosp so if anyone has had any sort of similar experience plssssss let me know ur experience??:pray:

anyone lol :)

I am not a believer in induction for non medical reasons however you do seem to have a few good reasons for an induction. No one can really say what you should do as we do not fully know your circumstances. This is something you and your partner need to decide between you. You say that your reasons for an induction “may seem like little points”. They do not seem like little points to me. They are causing you to stress and are therefore, in my mind, very valid points. Talk to your doctor and midwife. Talk to your partner and then make your decision.

OH ALAN... lol i was hoping u would advise on this lol... believe me i would love nothing more than to have a natural birth as 2 out of my last 3 were inductions and a very messy natural labour, i know they are not little points but im saying in compared to some of the reasons ppl have mine are not right up there..
i have discussed this and he is 100 % with me as he works in the city 40 min from home so over an hr from the hospital so he would prob miss the whole thing..
BUT THANK UUUUUUUUUUUU :)

Doubtful that an OB would allow an induction for non-medical reasons.

Something to think of... if the induction doesn't go as planned and the birth turns into a CS, do you have the support / help you need for six weeks at home until you are healed? I hope it doesn't come to that :hug:.My OB also wouldn't give an induction for non medical reasons.

i know i have thought about all these things and thats why im getting anxious...
i have been told that due to my sons medical reasons n needs they may do it but they arent for sure... which is fine if it turns into a no then im fine with it all but ill be very stressed after due to having all this alone...
i hope a cs isnt anywhere near this preg. as i would be totally stuffed if that happened literally thats a fear i have bt i block it out cause that is a scenario that would be a nightmare..

one thing i was thinking bout over the night was that if i asked for a cs they would more than likely give it to me as alot of ppl do get those now cause they want a more convenient birth etc.. (not passing judgement its their lives their body n baby) but i may be refused even though my circumstances are a little more valid then just wanting to have it at convenience... i dont know
Thanks ppl's for all ur input

:hug: Sounds like a really stressful time for you at the moment. I agree with Alan - talk to your health care provider and see what they have to say. They may have suggestions for dealing with all these issues with things that you haven't thought of. They might even be able to arrange something with a social worker to come and talk to you and see if there are more options.

I really hope you get some peace with it all and can find a solution that you are comfortable with :hug:

hmmm I agreet hat you do have valid points for asking. Weather they feel its enough dunno..
Personally i would just be saying to DH's work that this is when you need time off like it or not. I think its terrible that partners are given a time frame to have holidays for this sort of thing. I do realise that that is the way it is in most cases but if it comes to it, can he just take the days off unpaid if he has too?

Amali

If you are going private you do have option of elective c/s but if you are going public with OB they wont give it without medical reasons. My Ob wouldnt let me have induction until 41 weeks and I went private, Maybe other Obs are different?

Have you had c/s before? If you have inductions ending in VB thats great, unfortunately for me ended in emergency c/s. opting for elective c/s is a major decision, its not to be taken lightly, if I had the option to induce and give birth vaginally v/s c/s I would take that unfortunately I dont due to medical reasons.

Wish you luck in your decision.

Thanks ladies

efjay- i know hey its ridiculous that these events are so limited he works for the government supposedly marketing there take on family values Bulls**t if u ask me...
the situation at the moment would be really bad for him to take time without pay as we are currently building n stuff so those days would cost a considerable amount but if it needss to happen i have told him that his going to have too..

Belle- yeah my inductions were a great experience compared to some i have heard of... :( cs is def not my aim nor my intention... i just have to wait and see wat they can suggest even if they can give me that cervix swipe thingy lol not sure wat its called to see if my body will go on its own i would like it but i just dont know anymore..

You can try some natural induction methods in the meantime to try and get things moving - evening primrose oil capsules can be inserted next to your cervix from 36 weeks I think - they are meant to act a bit like prostoglandins (the stuff that is in sperm that can induce labour) - there is a thread somewhere that explains how to use them. Also walking everyday, raspberry leaf tea, nipple stimulation, shaking your booty. Try it all if you can, it can only help if you want to go into labour naturally.

The cervix swipe is called a stretch and sweep. If your cervix isn't favourable, it can be really painful and it did nothing for me when my cervix was unfavourable. Everyone is different though so it's worth asking :)

Just me- Thank u heaps im def looking into the EPO now as we speak lol
i had the stretch n sweep also not my favourite thing ever i can tell u that lol