things need to change around here... ASAP!! help please...

not sure if this is the right spot, but here goes...

after a day of the boys fighting almost non-stop well since the eldest got home from kinder at 1:30, being told to stop play-fighting, witch eventualy turned into seriouse try hurt eachother fighting, ds2 slamed ds1 into the floor and split the skin just above his lip open. they are like this most days lately, when ds1 is at kinder, it is prety good, quiet almost like ds2 is a diffrent kid, as soon as we get in the door from kinder, the fun starts, if there isnt kindy, it starts from wake up, and gets worse untill df gets home (or wakes up) but it only lasts for a little.
we have both decided tonight that enough is enough, we are going to change the way everything is done arround here, YAY! he suggested it this time, hes all for it! maybe it will work, the question is, how do we change how the house is run how the kids behave and how we react to there behaviour????
they carry on just like his 14 and 15 yo brothers do, fighting every chance they get and annoying the crap out of each other the rest of the time. witch has me worried, what if next bub is another boy? hed probably join in when he gets big enough, but then i think what if its a girl? be like his sisters, running arround calling eachother sl**s every 10 minuts....... oh what have we goten ourselves into?
things realy need to change! befor its to late, but how do we "de-program" the feral behaviour out of the boys and change our way of thinking??? i can only dream of the day i can go down the street with both the boys on the bus and into shops and days were noone yells or gets angry........

:hug: it sounds tough.

It also sounds like agression is a really big factor in all this. Is your DF aggressive when angry, or is it mainly the older brothers?

I think you might need to find a suitable outlet for all the energy, such as sporting or some other type of physical activity and then explain that wrestling etc is done in that kind of safe environment and not at home.

They are obviously very energetic boys, but I think you might need to limit the amount of anger/agression they see every day. Do you use a time out style discipline? That might help you to gain control while still keeping your cool.

Good luck!!!