What do I do about baby shower?

I'm not sure what to do. I do want a baby shower... my mum and sisters are dying to throw one... but I feel uncomfortable about it. I hate being invited to events where there's all these people that don't know each other. And the mum/bride/bday girl... or whoever is so busy doing the rounds, entertaining everybody, you barely get to say 5 words to her.
I have 3 groups. My relatives, friends, workmates.

My friends are party girls. They are all single, maybe a tiny bit rough, get wasted every weekend, and to be honest, I dont think they can function without a few drinks first. (which my mother would NOT allow in her house!)
I think they'd hate it.

I could just have a baby shower with my relatives, but there might only be about 10 or 11 people.... and they might think i'm a loser with no mates if it's just them! How embarassing.

Do i bother having one????

If YOU don't want one, then don't have one. Don't worry about what anyone else wants.

I kind of had the same dilemma.
Work mates, friends and family and we decided after encouragement from some lovely bellybelly ladies to go ahead and have a bbq at a local park and just invite them all. I was worried about inviting too many people but apparently more and more people are doing something different these days rather than the traditional sit around and play games party.
We are having about 50 - 60 of our closest friends and rellies, guys and girls for a bbq at a park for a few hrs of chilled out fun. The guys will bring a footy, ppl will mingle in their comfortable groups etc.
You could do something like this if you weren't concerned about numbers.

This is the reason I don't have get togethers for my birthday :(

i think its really upto u and besides its a day for u n ur baby n partner to be celebrated i think ur friends should put there ways behind them to celebrate their friendship with u... i would invite n if they dont wanna come then they dont have too but its all bout u on the day

I didn't have one because my parents & inlaws dont get along, and the people I call friends wouldnt show up because there would have been no alcohol.
I would have liked one, but didn't because of those reasons. I was worried about everyone else. But honestly I dont regret it. People buy gifts when the baby is born, and the games are corny. But make the decision yourself, try not to worry about other people!

I think stop stressing. Invite everyone and let them sort themselves out. People generally assume when they here 'baby shower' that it will be a relaxed fun alchole-free event. Don't stress about them mingling - they either will or they won't, but so long as they have at least one other person to talk to they will be fine. You may find that some of the people aren't 'into' baby showers so won't come, but others will and at events like this they expect to run into a mixture of people.

I must admit, I am a bit jealous: I would have loved a baby shower, but have never actually had one - so go and enjoy it for all of us out there who missed out! :D ;)

I had a huge baby shower, Invited all our friends and relatives along, male and female. Had people on their separate tables at a local bowls club. we had fun games to get everyone involved together. Like.. Feed the baby, bottle drinking competition, whats in the diaper etc.. lots of party food and drinks at bar prices. There was no doubt when you walked in that it was a baby shower from the decorations and huge gift table (which i didnt expect!!) Crazy times! was a fantastic night and because everyone was invited and had their individual groups on tables, there was enough socialisation between the groups so i could float around saying hi to everyone and had a good laugh at all the games!

My advice. Do wat you are comfortable with. Have a small shower at your mums house for your family, and an informal coffee date with ur friends somewhere nice?

Keep it as comfortable and relaxed as you need it. Remember the most important thing is your enjoyment.