trouble at playgroup need oppinions

I was going to a playgroup that I really enjoyed run by ....... church (wont name) had been going for about a year, started going when I was pregnant with DD2. I had no problems till they got someone else to run the group. She only started at the begining of term 3 (tasmania terms) She changed alot of things and not only myself wasnt happy.
But my little ones by then were 9 months and 2.5 years and neither liked to keep shoes on. It was an inside carpeted building. This new lady decided I couldnt look after MY children and called the department of childrens services. When I asked them what for they gave the above reson saying the report sait the were getting cold. They both have raynards (medical condition of the circulation).
She never tried to talk to me about any of this and when I went to say that I thought someone there had called and I was upset she admited it and was PROUD of it.

that was over a month ago I went back yesterday she wasnt there but the actual one above her was (they all know how I feel) She came and spoke to me as I leaving and comended for coming and that it never needs to be mentioned again. an actual apology would have been nice but she was bright red. I only went because 2 friends that go have had babies.

omg r u srs?? i would of knocked the b***h out!!! how dare she judge u and do something that is sooo disrespectful... does this woman realise who she rang?? these ppl dont come and sit to have coffee to discuss ur parenting options they come to investigate your way of being a mother to ur children...
i would take it further n have HER removed from her job as that is wrong n very judgemental on her behalf..
hun, u have every right to be upset this is sooooooo worng on so many levels its unbelievable.. u did the right thing by showing up there cause u R a good mum n why shouldnt u go??
u have nothing to hide... im peeved for u dw :) some ppl just have no common decency these days...

I'd find a new playgroup - you can't trust people who won't communicate with you. It wouldn't have taken that much skill to have a casual conversation with you to figure out if you genuinely didn't care about them being cold, or if you weren't aware, or if there was a medical reason, or, how about, evaluate whether you had some kind of financial problem with keeping the kids warm! Geez, what an ignoramus to just go ahead and call DoCS, who will take a child off a capable parent if someone so much as sneezes in your direction :(
New playgroup, hun. That's disgusting :(

:o That's awful. If she was concerned she should have spoken to you first, end of story. And the fact that you were not offered an apology by her or by anyone else... that would bug me no end.
I'd probably be looking elsewhere too... but I think it's great that you can be the better person by going back there.. if you can put it all behind you, good for you.
How does everyone else there feel about it? Will that particular woman be back or is she gone?

she had pre kinder with her son so will be back I told some of the other mums and they told everyone else (word goes round) they all think it was crazy one really good friend wont go back because she thinks she will be the next "target" as she has a hard to manage child that is always a mess. She just got a diagnoses of autism in the last 2 weeks but...

I would look for a new playgroup but go one last time to make the big announcement (i.e. "Just wanted everyone to know that it is my last day because...... and for those who would like to meet up as a mothers group, feel free to come and grab my number).

I would also speak directly to this lady calmly but in the group so you have witnesses and explain to her personally that she is very judgemental and has caused great distress, all because she couldn't use some common courtesy and talk to you. As such, not only are you going to leave and make a complaint but others are also planning on leaving due to her bullying behaviour.

Finally, I would also complain to the church running the playgroup and also Playgroup Australia (I am assuming you are a member).

Leave with your head held high because her head should be hanging in shame.

That's horrible. Is it really that hard to talk to someone if you have a concern? And really who cares if kids don't have shoes on anyway, I know my DD would run around bare-foot all the time if we let her

Oh my gosh, I'm just so shocked! Cannot believe this has happened to you. Push for her to be removed from the group!!!

Sounds like someones need to call somebody on that woman! She's a nutter! Boy who cried wolf with the authorities! Ppl like her **** me, no wonder REAL abused children aren't investigated well enough, because of trouble making cows like her.


I had a similar thing at the start of the yr, with my playgroup. A few 'newish' mums thought they would change the entire playgroup to suit them. I LOVED my playgroup and wasn't about to see it change for the worse!
So I sent an email to EVERYBODY in that playgroup, explaining that I wont be back and why......this email was MASSIVE including why Im leaving, what has changed and what I missed etc....
The replies were awesome, everybody agreed. Those ladies have since left and gone and made their own ****ty playgroup;)