Leaving Her @ Nanna's

DD2 has always been a VERY clingy girl, at one stage i couldn't leave a room without her screaming the house down, she would be attached to me everywhere i went and wouldn't even go to her dad.

Now she's on the move a bit she's a little more open to other people, she's still fed to sleep at night but she's down to roughly 3 feeds a day and is generally ok being passed around for cuddles even if i leave the room.
If i come back in she wants me straight away but i think she is kind of at that stage now where i could leave she might get upset but then she would be ok again until i see her.

We went to MIL's work fete on the w/end and for the first tiem EVER DD2 was happy to go to her nanna and walk away without me and sit and not scream :dance:

Now sadly i have found out a friends little girl is in RCH with a tumour in her stomach and i am wanting to go and see them, i had promised MIL i would take the girls to visit tomorrow after our walk and library time so i was thinking maybe just maybe i could get there, give the girls their lunch and give DD2 a feed and then LEAVE THEM BOTH for an hour or so while i go in and see Eb.

Do you think it's ok to just up and leave her, i have NEVER left her with anyone, not even to run down the street as she's ALWAYS been that bad, she wont take EBM and she doesn't have a dummy but i think she will be ok if i feed her first and then just go.

Hmmm i'm nearly talking myself out of it, i KNOW she will be ok, i just worry MIL wont watch DD1 when eating chocolate etc and she might accidently give it to DD2... ahhhhh i need to cut the cord.

I MIGHT FINALLY GET SOME ME TIME even if it is under horrible circumstances, but it could open up a doorway for me.. maybe she will like it and i might just be able to take her there and go have a day to myself in the city... :dance:

What do you think, should i see how we go tomorrow or should i just feed her and walk out the door, or should i take her with me and leave DD1 at her nans?

If it were me, I would give it a go & leave her with yout MIL & her sister. Just make sure you say goodbye & that you are coming back - that is all, don't make too big of a fuss. I am sure she will be fine. GL

I'd try it hun. If its only an hour, she might be okay, especially if she has a toy or something as a maybe distraction. You're only a phone call away too, if she gets upset. :hug: We find that when we leave DD with someone, we have to make sure she sees us leave - she gets super upset if we just disappear, but kind of gets that we've gone somewhere if she watches us go. She's always been like that.

I would do it! Its only an hour or two :) I would start making it a regular thing of it too and build up to being able to leave her for a few hours so you have time to yourself every now and then.

Thanks everyone, will take some Z friendly snacks, give her a feed and walk out the door :)

sounds like a plan :D

Our DS was soooo simliar to your little one. it was 6 months before I got out to get a haircut after he was born TBH it was harder on me, I cried the first few times DP and I went out for a movie lol.

it will take time for both of you to get use to it. For us when he was around 10 months we started leaving when he was distracted with nanna & pop and that worked great. Now that he is older its better for him to see us off. If you're only going for an hour maybe try popping out without her noticing since she will be playing she might not even notice. I found setting DS up in a seperate room with his toys and coming back in frequently, but stretching out the times, got him use to playing without me.

all the best, and hope your friends bub is ok.

Thanks everyone.. today is a new day and i have convinced myself she is going to be perfect.
Will pack some Z friendly snacks, give her a feed and walk out the door.... she might just enjoy it :)

I would leave her, the few times I have had DD looked after by close relatives I always make sure I say goodbye, but don't make a big fuss or demand she say it back. Only the very frist time we had tears & one other time when DF kept saying good bye & making a big fuss.

How did you go today, ZF?

How did it all go?

Great, i bought her some snacks and MIL gave her one of her 'special' chocolates as i left and she didn't cry at all, fell asleep on MIL but woke up and cracked it right as i was walking in the door.. so was perfect timing... thanks everyone :)

I wish i could say i enjoyed my time away from her but thats another story

sounds like my DS was. now i leave him with my parents for an hour each friday (while i go to the PT) & he barely gives me a second glance when i leave. sometimes i get a wave :lol:

even though it wasn't for the best reason today, at least it does open that door for you to have some free time from now on if you need/want it :thumbsup: