No!! More!! Sex!!!! (Vent)

Hi,

So Im currently 37+4 and am so ready to have this baby. (Baby number 5)
After a midwife appointment last week with my hubby (he came because I was having an unofficial scan to determine position of baby) my midwife suggested some natural ways of inducing labour naturally.
I have to say I am so tired of hearing "sex sex sex" is the way to do it. Arggg!!
I know pregnancy and creating life is beautiful and a miracle really, when your this far along you dont stop to think about that. All you feel is fat, tired, uncoordinated, and not exactly sexy! To make matters worse she said this in front of hubby who afterwards couldnt wipe the smile from his face! I was like seriously lady - your a mum, you've been there done that, why did you mention that in front of HIM!! Argggg.
Not to mention reading all you can about natural labour induction and everyone says sex. Ok I know thats how bubs got there in the first place, but seriously when your looking like a near perfect sphere "sex" is like saying that everyone's going to win a million dollars in the lotto tonight - It aint happening!! Hahaha my poor husband really!!

Anyways just a few opinions on a different subject - Been having some pretty decent BH's over the last couple of evenings. This morning however I have gotten up, had a loose BM (which had the same smell that matched the pleasentness of it ... ugh), Ive had gas that even my husband admires since last night, and all day have had period like pains constantly in my lower abdo. (Doesnt seem to go away at all but feel it more at times and less at other times) Also accompanied by slight back ache and upper thigh ache. Early labour signs or not??? I sit and think - yep this is definately it, butthen something just holds me back. These feelings dont go away if I walk sit wee poop anything. What do you guys think??
Thanks all (and sorry about my vent) :)

:hugs:
Could always go for a walk and see if it will build up, or disappear. xoxox

there are a few good articles on the BB site:

Labour Signs - Could I Be in Early Labour?

Contractions - What Do Contractions Feel Like?

It's not so much the sex, it's the oxytocin that encourages labour - which is released during happy :) So a good snog may do the trick just as well. I do know that this morning my DH was a bit frisky and I told him not on his life if he valued his penis.

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there are a few good articles on the BB site:

Labour Signs - Could I Be in Early Labour?

Contractions - What Do Contractions Feel Like?

It's not so much the sex, it's the oxytocin that encourages labour - which is released during happy :) So a good snog may do the trick just as well. I do know that this morning my DH was a bit frisky and I told him not on his life if he valued his penis.

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Oh Kazbah,

"I do know that this morning my DH was a bit frisky and I told him not on his life if he valued his penis" ... That is absolutely hilarious!! Hahahaha Thank you so much for the laugh!! :))

I was 10 days over and also got sick of hearing sex, sex, sex I just told them that I wasn't in a hurry. We did try it when I was about a week overdue I think but dh was the one who didn't want to do it, he kept saying bub will arrive when he wants to. Besides when we did it there wasn't much energy to it because it hurt and as you said I felt fat and uncomfortable etc.

Good luck with those BH's!

I agree with Kazbah. Your body would benefit from some of the same hormones that course through your body when having satisfying sex. But bear with me: It's a brain thing you're after.... not just a physical. It's not just about semen making contact with your cervix... it's the sense of being safe, being loved, feeling secure that having good quality sex gives you. Just having sex for the sake of it won't cut it... infact if it makes you tense up and mentally uncomfortable then i'd go as far as to say it would stall things even longer.

To go into labour you have to feel safe and content. Do whatever it takes to get your mind into that place. It sounds like sex isn't going to get you there so don't go there! We are like any other member of the animal kingdom... think about cats who go in search of dark, quiet, enclosed safe places before having their litter. Animals who feel under attack (which the pressure of having sex can make you feel! LOL) stall labour until they are safe... often for days. tell this to your DH. If he wants this baby to arrive then he has to make you feel safe and protected... not the source of pleasure at your sufferance!

I didn't have sex for ages while I was in the late stages of my pregnancy and I went into labour naturally. my waters broke 11:45pm the night of my EDD. I went christmas shopping that day and I believe the walking and the HOT WEATHER while I was out and about helped alot. Or maybe it was just time. Bub will come when he/ashe is ready :) It's hard to be patient I know but it will all be over before you know it! :hug:
Goodluck!!!