Is this normal? Trying to understand my emotions.

Hi everyone

I'll be 10 weeks on Monday. For about four weeks now I've been feeling constantly nauseous - from the minute I get up to the minute I go to sleep, every day. I haven't been throwing up, but I'm just off food altogether (not like me at all!). I've found it to be quite draining on me physically and emotionally.

I'm wondering if feeling sick all the time has distracted me from feeling all the joy and happiness and excitement I should be feeling about being a mum for the first time? I kind of feel like it's a combination of first trimester worry about the baby being okay, and feeling so sick and tired that I have no energy left to feel anything else. The people who know about the baby ask me, am I excited? Am I thrilled? Am I thinking about how wonderful it's all going to be? And yes, I guess on one level I am thinking and feeling those things. But honestly, I was more excited about the idea of this baby before I fell pregnant!

Is this normal? Only 10 weeks into my pregnancy and I'm feeling sad about being a bad woman, wife and mother. I thought I would take to pregnancy like a duck to water - I've always wanted a baby, I've always wanted to be a mother and I thought I'd be "good" at being pregnant. My best friend had a perfect pregnancy, labour and birth, and in some ways I already feel like a failure. I'm so disappointed in myself for not embracing this with more excitement and anticipation - and I'm already worried that others must be judging me.

I should note that I do suffer from a notable level of anxiety in other aspects of my life, but this doesn't feel like that... It's like, I'm saying no to the happy emotions and choosing to focus on the tiredness and the nausea and the idea that "after 12 weeks, I can start to believe this is real". What I want is to feel happy and healthy and full of energy and excited about becoming a mum!

Can anyone relate to what I'm feeling? TIA.

YES! Totally normal honey. I felt exactly that way when pregnant with DD. I was sooooo excited but had the morning till night time sickness. But that reassured me that things were ok.
I guess just try and focus on the positive of feeling sick (if that makes sense) - you've got a strong wee bubby in there snuggling in nice and tight.

But in all honesty, I found pregnancy to be the most stressful and mentally challenging thing I've experienced in my life - the first trimester was the most stressful. I was soooo scared of something going wrong after having tried to get pregnant for so long.

:hug: I am sure there are loads of other ladies here who will agree with you. You're going to be a wonderful mummy!! I hope that your nausea goes away so that you can start to really enjoy it!

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Hi Tia,

Oh sweety, I am totally new at this pregnancy business too but I know that you shouldn't feel the slightest bad for feeling the way you do and how your body is responding to your pregnancy! In fact in a positive moment, these signs are good (even if it dosen't feel like it), means your pregnancy is progressing normal.:)

I think to because it is your first trimester, your right it is stressful and scary (I know). With your anxiety, try to reassure yourself and the love of your partner/friends and of course your growing bump will make this all worth it and this emotion/nausea/fatigue will pass. No one has the right to judge you and if they do well please put yourself in a more positive and supportive environment. You are only human and I had the idea that being pregnant would be a happy moment for me everyday but hormones are what they are so please don't feel bad!:pray:

And honestly right now I'm constantly anxious about every cramp and headache and the fear of losing this little "Mr Bean" in me drives me to nerves and to get up to do the dishes....pass! :lol:but I think we just gotta go with it....that is the secret to pregnancy I think for now! :egg:

Hug.x:heartbeat:

I have always had anxiety, this is my first pregnancy too, I found out at 9 weeks.

What I found was that pregnancy, really bought that thinking about being in the moment, and slowing down, home to me. With nausea, I was just and still am really focussing on what I can eat and drink next, to nourish myself and the baby.

Totally normal to feel that way. I'm pregnant with bub no.2 and am surprised that I feel this way again in this pregnancy. It's hard to feel happy and excited when all you want to do is vomit. I never had morning sickness with my son but I've had it terribly with this one and am only 9 weeks! Hoping it goes away at 12 weeks...

Pregnancy is a rollercoaster ride and you will find you will have ups, downs and spin outs. Just ride with it and accept that whatever you feel is normal. I too suffer anxiety when I get really stressed but I just relax and do visualisations and rub my belly and start to feel better.

Be kind to yourself and when the sickness eases, and you feel bub move you will start to relish (and it's soooo ok if you don't!).

All the best!

absolutely 100% normal!!!! constant morning sickness is sooo draining its hard to feel excited about anything, but it will pass hun, and u will feel all those emotions u expect to feel

Yes this is perfectly normal Hun, I had 24/7 MS the whole way through my Preg & it really got me down too!
To be honest I didn't really enjoy being pregnant at all, I didn't find it pleasant or wonderful, the only thing I enjoyed was her kicking!
It doesn't mean you're a bad person. Not everyone has the same experiences & every pregnancy is different. I battled with guilt too about feeling these things. The fact was I felt so blessed to be having our bub but I got the MS, the SPD and just don't enjoy being pregnant.
MS eases for most ppl around 12 weeks so hang in there!
Talking about how you feel is the best thing you can do & honestly BB was amazing for me, the ladies here are so supportive and helpful & you can always find someone who is or has been feeling the way you are & has experienced the things you are!
Good luck hun, it will get easier :)