my news got leaked :(

Hi girls

I'm 10 weeks pregnant, and have only told a small number of close friends. We wanted support because of a previous miscarriage, and for the same reason have really not wanted to go public until after a healthy 12 week scan.
We just found out from a friend that people have been spreading the news throughout our whole friendship group (including some very gossipy people who I'd rather define as acquaintances)

I have traced a POSSIBLE source of the leak, but its just as likely that someone overheard a conversation and figured it out. I dont want to get angry or accuse anyone, I understand how it can happen, but I feel like our thunder has been stolen and I hate thinking that people are talking about me behind my back.

I could really do with some advice on how to feel here.

Oh no, that really sucks! Don't have any advice though sorry :hug:

FWIW a friend of mine's VERY early pregnancy was recently announced on FaceBook by another friend!

oh that sucks..
i get ur disappointment i really do ive never got to tell any one with mine my mum or SiL's did it for me lol...
my advise to u is just relax n think of hat beautiful being growing inside of u...
ppl will always try to take ur thunder but its all urs hun... when ppl ask u say yep i am really loudly n exciited so it will be like u just told them,

Hi,

I am 8 weeks and i told my parents at 5 for support. I recently found out that my entire UK family and extended family friends all know about it already! And i havent even had chance to tell my closest friends as yet.

Not sure how you should feel but i am taking it as a happy time that people are excited to be a part of. I would grab the rest of your closest friends that you want to find out from you and make sure they hear it from you first.

Hope that helps.

Kaz

I couldn't help myself. If it was me I'd write on my facebook status that the person whom spread your news was a selfish cow that had no respect for your friendship etc and that it was your news to share when the time was right and you hope they enjoyed spreading it when it wasn't there news to tell. People whom might have spread your news will know who they are without you pointing the finger and risk not having it right. If it was someones guess then no harm done.

I'd just go with your original plan and announce when you are ready, and when those that already know, say oh such and such told me, you just be, all oh that's nice of them..... Weirdos, spreading your news ;)

Sorry this happened to you. It's not very nice.

For me, I'd just learn from it. Someone that you told can't be that good a friend not to respect your confidence.

This time I had someone tell my boss before I did. Bad karma. Lesson learnt the hard way.

Oh no, this is my worst fear. I would be furious but after thinking about it, I would probably pretend like I didn't know it happened. Just tell the rest of your friends when you want to and if THEY act surprised (as if they didn't know) then run with it but if they act all "old news" about it, I would have a bit of a pointed comment ready so its obvious you are annoyed. I like the "Oh that was nice of such and such to share my news" like mum2romone said.

If I go again, I'm never telling anyone outside of very close people! I told someone from a homebirth support group I was a part of and she assumed that another mutual friend knew and talked about it, only to realise this friend didn't know. Now, to be fair, she knew that the mutual friend is a particularly good friend of mine, but she wasn't to know that this friend couldn't be trusted with news because she'd tell her husband (and only her DH), and HE is the one with the big mouth. Guess what? Friend told her DH and he went round telling people, even prefacing it as a rumour...without checking with me or DP first! We were supposed to be all good friends till that point! Coincidentally (or maybe not, there may have been some unconscious anger there) the two fellas had a falling out over something unrelated and haven't really recovered from that.
Moral of the story: Keep the news VERY close, and if leaving out some close people, don't tell further related people!
Stick to your announcement plan and let the rumour mill go.
In my story, I didn't show till I was about 21 weeks pg, so a lot of people thought this guy had made it up for a good two months ;)

:) thanks everyone.
I love bellybelly! You guys totally get it.
I think we're going to go with what mum2ramone said. There are a few arms of our network that it shouldn't spread along so we'll just cherish the excitement with those ones. I am just hoping they're kind enough to keep it off fb!
Maybe once it's public I'll make a pointed fb status! Haha

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Agh no that sucks I just had a friend leak ours to some people via FB status and I quickly sent her a text saying it was still a secret she apologized profusely and deleted asap. In this case it was just a slip of the tongue. However if it was on purpose I know who I would be leaving off the text list for he BA ;)

aggh, that sux big time!! i hope you are able to make the anoucment yourselves in 2 weeks, and those who do know still react as they should, with love support and excitement, not with "oh i already knew"
my cousion done that a few months ago to my aunt, put a huge congrats on fb as she over heard the convo with her mum, my aunt only just found out herself! had calls left right and center, so had to announce it to the world at 5 weeks.