I Want Just One Day

Where I'm not in pain! Really, is it too much to ask for?

I struggled today to pick my child up off the floor. I can't carry him on my left side for too long or my arm goes 'dead' and is heavy and useless. I can't lay on the floor with him for too long or I struggle to get back up. Makes me feel like a great parent. Not to mention the housework that makes it worse.

I can't get comfortable and I can't get to sleep because of the pain I'm in. No sleep = fatigue + stress = more pain :wall:

Please, just one day

That sounds awful!! Is there a reason for your pain? Pre-existing illness or post pregnancy related?

Pre-existing :( 9years now of constant pain. Before it was somewhat bearable because it was only me to look after, but now it makes it all the more harder
Really strict exercise and stretching regime works to alleviate it to a 4/10 rating but it is soo hard sometimes

So sorry to hear you are in so much pain. HOpe tomorrow is a better day :hug:

I hope tomorrow is a better day too Xx

Untold Angel, it might be worth seeing a pain specialist...even though this is something you may already have done, sometimes it's worth having a fresh assessment to see if there is another treatment strategy available.

Also, acupuncture is very good for some chronic pain conditions, might be something to consider. I know how harrowing and wearing it can be to be in pain, but I also believe in the body's ability to restore itself to a state of wellbeing...with a little help. :hug: I hope you can get some relief short term and some improvement longer term.

I hope you have some relief soon :hug:

Thanks for the thoughts girls, the pain has settled to it's usual bearable self for the time being thankfully!

Marydean - I seen a pain specialist years ago in relation to it all and he suggested nothing more than what I was already undertaking (apart from telling me I shouldn't be in any pain GRR). If I went to one now, I would have to travel to Sydney as he is the only one in the area and I don't think it would be worthwhile seeing him again.
I have tried acupuncture in the past for an unrelated issue and it actually made the problem a lot worse than it started out. This has unfortunately tainted my view on the whole practice :( Maybe I should try and wipe the slate clean and start with a fresh idea about it and give it a shot

:hug: hon. I understand. I have a back injury that really interferes with life at times.

Hang in there

Thanks MG, it can be really depressing sometimes trying to get on with life when you are in soo much pain. Thankfully though it didn't play up too much with my pregnancy, which I was very grateful for.

Not being able to hang the washing, or vacuum or make the beds can be annoying, but not being able to pick up your bub and give them a cuddle when they need it because you physically can't do it without crying in pain.... THAT SUCKS!

Absolutely is does Belle! But focus on what you CAN do. Also, you may not be able to pick him up, but try to find other ways of dealing with the situation. I can't lift my DD at all (well, I'm not suppose to!) so I find ways around it. She is older than your DS but even when she was younger we had things we'd do. I'd lean over her on the floor and kiss her, I'd tickle her with my hair; now she crawls into my lap and gets her hugs that way. If we're out, I just plonk on the floor and she climbs in.

Hang in the hon, focus on the positives.

MG

GBH honey that really does suck, not being able to do things can make u feel really useless but not being able to snuggle parker!! that truely does suck. i think it would be worthwile looking at whether there are any new treatments or management strategies that are available now?
hope u get some rest and snuggles soon xxoo

Untold, you might need to do a bit of research because there *will* be other specialists - you may just have to travel a little further...let your GP do some of the homework for you (if you have a GP you trust, if not find one of them first!!!) I've had loads of medical treatment over the last couple of years and there is a massive difference between some doctors and other doctors, and the magic ingredient is care and concern. Telling you you "should" have no pain tells me the wally you saw had no further interest in helping you. That's not really good enough. Plus, don't underestimate the degree to which medical science has come along in the few years since then, sometimes it could even be something simple like changing the way your meds are combined can make a huge difference. Never ever give up hope! :hug:

:hug: beautiful girl! I agree with MD, see if you can find anyone else. Definitely worth a shot xo

Thanks MD.. I know he had no intention of taking my treatment any further as he was paid by an insurance company for the assessment :rolleyes: There is another pain clinic through one of the hospitals, but looking at it's assessment criteria, I would be on a waiting list as it has been 9years :( I also don't know if I can go through all the assessments again to be told that I am making it up / I shouldn't have these problems etc because I have been told that already and it is really depressing. Maybe I should just pull my finger out and get back into the really strict exercise regime that gives me some relief... now just to get in the head space to do that with PND hanging around like a bad smell

Thanks chick :hug:

Belle, I just want to send you a giant hug... I know all too well what it's like. :hug:

For me, it's severe rheumatoid arthritis. But a form that isn't destroying my joints, which I guess is a small blessing. I remember how hard it was when Sam was young - I remember leaning over him and wrapping my arms around him to pick him up, because I couldn't trust my hands to hold him. Even now at 2 we have rough days. He doesn't quite get that mummy can't do a lot of stuff that daddy does. But we manage.

I haven't done the whole pain specialist thing, we're still pursuing an arthritis treatment to manage things and hoping that it will give me relief, but I have been told of a very good one in Sydney - not that it helps you much! But I used to live in Newcastle, and I can't imagine that there is only one pain specialist there. Could still be a drive, but it's not as far as Sydney!

BW

Thanks BW, I only had a quick look so might have missed some, but there only seemed to be one private and a few through a couple of the hospitals... Might have to look into it with my GP and physio and see what they suggest

I hope your treatment plan comes together :hug:

That's heartbreaking hon :hug:

I second what MD has suggested though - a lot has probably changed in 9 years, both doctors and treatments.

I have a bad lower back which has only been aggravated with pregnancy and spread to my hips. It's not as bad now as it was during my pregnancy but it throws me a curve ball now and then (like last night - I struggled to walk to DDs room to attend to her during the night, my hips just wouldn't support me!) but physic and regular pilates (with my physiotherapist) is helping.

I hope you get some relief soon