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I'm wondering what made others decide to find out the sex of bub at the 20 week scan?
we didn't find out with DS and we wanted the surprise at his birth and it was great!
I thought I was carrying a boy and I was Right lol
I'm wondering, do I want to find out this time!
Incase it's a girl then I can prepare better, since having a toddler I won't be able to just browse the shops after bub is born.....like I did for DS......
Thanks ladies in advance
I didn't find out with my first 3 babies but for some reason with my last we decided why not! We didn't at the 20 week scan tho we had a check up scan at 32 weeks and just decided to,
Personally I would have prefered the surprise but it was cool finding out.. I love the whole guessing game of pregnancy. makes the weeks pass faster :lo:
I have only found out with this baby, never with any of my others. My reasoning was that if I am to have a boy, I really need to start shopping for boy clothes. At the morphology scan we asked to find out the gender and the baby was in a difficult position as well as the cord being in the way, so we didn't get a definite answer. We asked again at the 3d/4d scan and it was pretty much the same thing. I had a growth scan done at 32 weeks where we could see more clearly but in my mind I am not 100% sure so I have not bought anything in pink or blue... I've bought some of each!
I have 15 days to go and I figure I will find out then! I love shopping after the bub arrives.
Im a control and organisation freak and needed to know so i could get everything done lol
Just being honest.
We have two boys already but have had to purchase everything all over again and white can be very limiting and I dislike yellow. We knew we wouldn't have the money when the baby was born and we suck at saving so decided that for us it was best to know....
That's my excuse and I'm sticking to it lol
DH is very impatient with surprises. With our first pregnancy I would've been happy to be surprised. It ended in miscarriage and when I got pregnant with DD I felt detached so finding out the sex helped me to feel bonded with her. It was just as well. DH had his heart set on a boy and it gave him a chance to get his head around the fact that we were having a girl.
I wouldn't buy just pink or blue for either sex, so buying stuff isn't an important reason for me. Not knowing gives you a chance to be a bit less restrictive in your colour choices- you will prob be given enough blue or pink when bub gets here anyway. My bub wore heaps of funky clothes when she was little, rainbow coloured, grey with stars, greens, purples, orange, blues. Of my fav newborn clothes, none are gender specific
We found out because I wanted everything to be gender specific. So pink stuff for a girl n blue for a boy. I'm not really into neutral colours or green, yellow n purple on babies. Lol. And I am OCD with organising things so I had to know so I could plan and organise her nursery...
And last reason was that I wanted a girl, dh wanted a boy... We found out at 20 weeks ao there was no chance of even a split second of disappointment at birth...
:)
Lol love it!!! Me too!:
I suffered gender disappointment when I found out DS was to be our fourth son so I wanted to prepare myself as I knew those feelings would be back if number five was another boy.
The last two are the only ones I found out the sex with but in saying that if we were to have an "oops" now I wouldnt want to know. Well I say that now because I do love the surprise factor but then again the control freak in me might take over.
:o Why am I talking like this is an option??? I dont want anymore babies!! :lol::lol::shakehead:
DH is like a kid at christmas and couldnt possibly wait till the birth to find out so we found out with both but didnt tell anyone else with our first with this one we have told a few people.
i had a really bad pregnancy, especially with ds, and was feeling very depressed etc; i made the choice to find out his gender so that i could bond better prenatally. i found it worked for me, and by the time he got here, i was already completely obsessed with him. we asked at dd's 20 week scan, and they weren't sure, my obgyn did a couple of ultrasounds, cause she liked to put herself in weird positions, and said 'i can't be sure, but i certainly don't see anything dangling'. i always thought she was a girl anyway..
I haven't read all the replies so sorry if I'm repeating anyone :D
I have always said I'd find out the sex of any kids I might have. I like to be prepared, not just with clothes and things but emotionally/mentally too. I like to know what is going on so not knowing the sex would really stress me out!
We also felt we able to bond with Moo before he was born, calling him by his name and referring to him as he instead of it.
Where I live I found there weren't many unisex colours in clothes and bedding etc so it would've been difficult to get his nursery ready.
People kept saying we'd ruined our surprise and the birth day wouldn't be as exciting! I just said that we're having a baby and it's going to be exciting regardless :D
You have to do what feels right for you, good luck with your decision!
I didn't find out with my DS, so bought both for boy or girl, once he was here though I realised I had gotten way too much for a girl & not enough for him. So for DD I wanted to be prepared better & now for this bubba, Being a surprise pregnancy, we really couldn't afford to be buying everything again so needed to know in advance with time to prepare incase it was a boy. Luckily she is another girl & don't need much extra stuff!
I also like having my babies names picked out early & talk to bub by his/her name before she is born ITMS?
I found out with all three of mine. It helped me bond with my bubs during pg. I am also a control freak and I couldn't stand the thought that the sonographer knew what my baby was and I didn't! I don't particularly like surprises - it's that control freak thing again!! I never regretted finding out.
We kept the gender a secret from everyone with both of my DD's, which was actually kind of fun - for us anyway! And it was nice for DH and I to share a secret. My DS was diagnosed with health problems at the 20wk scan and we were told he might not survive. We told everyone he was a boy - the gender was just so utterly unimportant in comparison to his health!
I wanted to find out this time, as it still troubles me that we dont know whether we lost a son or daughter when I mc'd :(. Dont mean to be a downer but the fact that our first bub will always be 'bub' or 'it' really pains me. Otherwise I dont know if we wouldve found out this time.
Thats me! The technology is there, why not find out? They can still be wrong anyway, but at least you can decide on names and themes easier if you know what ur having :-):
I just wanted too, and i will be finding out with this one too! Its still exciting :-)
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I didn't find our with my first 2 boys. With my 3rd pregnancy we chose to find out as I was worried about gender dissapointment.
As you can see we did in fact have another boy, I found it helpful as I dealt with my dissapointment at not having a girl and was able to bond with him. We however chose not to tell anyone so for everyone else it was still a surprise.
If I have a 4th (which I'm hoping for) I really don't know what to do, as I must say I much prefer the surprise of not knowing, but if it was to be another boy I would hate my inital reaction at the birth to be slight dissapointment.
Good luck with your decision