Help! 3yo back chatting!

OMG. My son is 3.5yrs old. For about the last 2-3 weeks, he's been back chatting. I'm actually surprised it started so early.

"Eat your dinner please"
"No! You eat YOUR dinner"

"Stop kicking the back of the chair" (in the car)
"YOU stop kicking the chair!"

"Mum, I'm SICK OF IT" when told to do something.
"NO! YOU do it!"

ARGH!!

Is there anyway to stop this? I made him dinner. He said he didn't want to eat the zucchini. I said that was fine. Then he proceeded to make his broccoli (which he loves) into a car. Each time I asked him to stop it, to eat his dinner,he just made some excuse. "I want to sit next to you". So I accommodated him.

Then again after I asked.... "No YOU eat YOUR dinner!" as I was eating mine.

I got sick of telling him off after about 10-15 mins (he's eaten a bit of broccoli - he is hungry, just taking his sweet time), and his continual back chat, that I pick him up off his chair and march him to his room, put him on his bed (the whole way telling him why he was going there). DH is sick, and has heard the whole thing. DS comes back out, sits back on the chair, picks up some corn, eats a smidge then starts up again (making it a car and chatting back). DH comes out and tells him off. Still does it. FINALLY he eats another peice of broccoli and his corn, and I'm over it. We go wash his hands, and I let him go play coz I'm getting no where.

This is just tonight's instance. He back chats everything he doesn't want to do. I'm aware that he's back chatting coz he doesn't want to do it, and he's pushing the boundaries, but is there anyway to just nip it in the bud? lol My sister just said, "wait til he's 4, then you'll know about it!". Well, I don't want to find out what that's like. I want my sweet, polite mannered little boy back!!

HELP!

dont no what to say but my daughter has just turned 4 and has been a lil diva the last 6 months everyone tells me its because we are having a baby and she wont be the baby anymore but i think it is just a age thing cause she is excited about baby cause he is her Best friend haha will see when he gets here it may all change :)

DS does this, not too often anymore, but i think because like any issue you have with little ones testing their boudaries, we've nipped it in the butt early and made it clear that we will not tolerate him being rude and disrespectful. He gets a warning and it its continued he will get sent to his room, will miss out on things, have things that are important to him (like his DS) taken away etc. Just make sure you keep at it and keep consistant. DD is starting it now and we're just doing the same. I think its just one of those things they all go through, testing how far they can push you, but just make it clear to him who is boss and you wont put up with it.. i think thats all you can do. xx

its like they know the right buttons to press hey :wall:
My DD sounds very similar to your DS
:think: boarding schools take them this early dont they?? (just kidding)
Ive just been ignoring DDs backchatting and whilst its not really working its making me less frustrated then I was when I reacted every time
DD has also been mucking around at dinner time so after a while I take it away and then when she is ready I offer it again instead of giving in and giving her something else because she is hungry, she still mostly doesnt eat it but im hoping after a while she will realise its just easier to eat it at dinner time :crossfingers:

lol @ boarding schools.

Ahhh sounds like Oskar!! It drives me INSANE!! Unfortunately he has an older brother who has, let's say... pretty much ZERO respect! The funny thing about it is, Oskar will tell Joshua off for being mean and naughty to mummy but does it himself *shakes head* lol. They get it I think... but I think that they just need to check it all out for themselves. PAINFUL for us though! I have no solutions or suggestions really cos I have found when he's really in that mood, nothing is really going to stop him... I send him to bed early though lol... for the peace and quiet!