Bullies in pre-primary

I am just gutted... my ds1 has ended up in a pre-primary class with bullies.... again!

Background - he went to a diff kindy last year, was in a split kindy/pre-primary class. Majority of the class were pre-primarys and quite a few boys. A few decided they didn't like my boy. I know he's not a perfect angel but he had his chair pulled out when he was going to sit down, tripped over, rocks thrown at him in the playground, they would ask him to play then run away laughing, sit on him so he couldn't get up etc... yes, I brought it up with the teacher but got fobbed off. :( Anyway..... so we moved to the local primary school for pre-primary.

So far they've had a staggered start, half the class a couple of days, the other half the other days, make sense? The group he's in has been fantastic! The teacher has even commented how well they all get along, boys and girls, and how great it is. One of my close girlfriends has her son in the other group, man, the stuff that's come home already from 3 days at school is amazing! There are 2 foster brothers in this group, so far they've tripped him up in class, slapped him in the mouth and threatened to punch her boy at playtime!

Why??? why are kids like this???? It's just not fair and it sucks! My kid does not bully, he plays with everyone. What can I do to help the situation? I already said to the teacher the other day how happy he's been and how he was bullied last year, this was before I knew what was going on.

I'm tempted to tell him that if anyone thumps him he can feel free to thump them back but I know that's not the answer! Anyone had any experience and can help me with this? I'm freaking out that this year is going to be like last and he's going to hate going to school. He was so happy the first day, the first thing he said to me was 'mum, ALL the kids are nice here'! Now his little world is going to be shattered.

For gods sake, these kids are 5yrs old!!!!!!!!!!

:hug: It is so hard to see your child bullied :(
I think you should bring it up with his teacher as soon as possible, ask her if they have a anti-bully policy. Some schools do.
If she is unwilling to do anything I would make an appointment to see the headmaster....hopefully you should get somewhere with him/her.
I really hope you can get the school to do something about it...your poor DS it must be frightening for him.

This sux :(

I hate bullies with a passion.

Take it up with the teacher, if you're not satisfied with the outcome from that, then go to the principal, if you're satisfied with their response, then the Ed Dept.

I hope it gets resolved quickly! I'm another who hates bullies with a passion.

Gee, how popular am I going to be... a meeting with the principal on week 3.... oh well... so be it! I REALLY don't want a repeat of last year!

Last year we told ds1 to walk away from them and tell the teacher.... do I do the same or should he be standing up for himself a bit?

It's better to get it resolved now than to let it go on and possibly get worse.

James has yet to come face to face with these boys. I'm just kind of pre-empting the situation and trying to get my mind around how to deal with it so I can jump on it as soon as it happens. So far the info is from my good friend and her son. Her son is copping it at the moment. :( This boy is one of James' best friends so no doubt he'll also be in the firing line.

Then tell your friend to get onto it asap, there's nothing worse than dreading going to school because of bullies, belive me I know. :(

ALL schools should have an anti-bully policy. Talk to the teacher, and to the principal if necessary. Don't encourage your DS to stand up for himself in any way other than to ask them to stop, otherwise he will end up in trouble himself. Definitely not what you are after. A good teacher will already have spotted what is going on and will be trying to deal with these bullies already. It generally isn't subtle emotional bullying at this age.

At least having had the staggered start your DS had made some good friends already and this should help him a bit if other kids start to give him a hard time. You might find that in the combined group with more nice kids around, the bullies won't be able to weild any power and will fall into line.

Thanks for that girls, I'm going to call and rq a meeting for early next week just to go through with the teacher what happened last year and how I've heard what's been happening already and that I'm concerned.

The teacher seems really nice, here's hoping she is already on top of it and is strong enough to deal with it.

ive always said to ashy if someone hiuts you you hit em back...probably not the best advice but my boy will not be bullied

Oh I know your frustration well!

DD has started school last week, went off to class perfectly all week and this week. The yesterday I picked her up and she said someone had hit her. This morning so balled her eyes out and now doesn't want to go! Even her teacher couldn't believe the complete turn around. It better be sorted out today or I wont be happy and having been bullied all the way through school I certainly won't be fobbed off by the school.

I'm so sick of the pathetic excuses, bullying does not build character, it is not ok and "oh they are just kids" doesn't cut it!