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Feel like crying
:( Feel like I'm going to burst into tears.
I'm so excited to have this baby and DD is going to be a great big sister. I'm so excited to see her with the baby and introduce them and give her a sibling and all the new things we will get to do and experience.
But I just realised, the baby is coming really soon. Like in the next week (hopefully). There's only days, not weeks left of just me and my girl, it will never be just us again! I love her so much, and I can't get enough of her and I'm a bit scared of how our relationship will change when the baby comes when everything seems so perfect now.
I did have these worries before when deciding to get pregnant and posted about it, but I haven't really worried about it much since becoming pregnant. And you all have reassured me before that everything will be fine. Just realising that it's all going to change really soon I guess.
Just had to get that out!
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First off, Happy Due Date!.
Your right things are going to change, just remember that they are changing for the better. Everything is going to be great and your just going to have even more love to share around.
Good luck, I hope it is not to much londer for you to wait.
Oh and the day I laboured with DD2 I spent the nearly the whole day with just DD1 and it was a fantastic way to end our time as just us. It will always be a really special day for me.
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I know EXACTLY how you feel :( Makes me feel so sad too even though the birth of bub #2 is very exciting at the same time....
Don't worry I'm sure most of us, if not all of us, have or are feeling the same way!!!! I too worry how it will affect how close DD and I are!! BUT I keep reminding myself, she's getting a sibling!!!
Get off the computer and enjoy every single minute of it from now on ;)
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It's so lovely to see your writing about your special relationship with your daughter! She will always be your first and your special times together will continue long into the future! Enjoy your Mummy/daughter time for now, and your special shared relationship once bubba comes. Best of luck Mumma!
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Aww I feel the same way with DS. I am not as close to the big day as you are but already I'm feeling sad that the time where it's just "us" is diminishing.
I think with the new baby you will both see new things in each other - ie her being a big sis and she will see you being a mummy to a newborn and you will be even closer.
Good luck with the impending birth :)
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I couldve written that exact post when I was preg with DD2 I remember one night bawling my eyes out and Df trying to comfort me!
It is a big change and I found that my DD1 who always was my baby suddenly seemed to change overnight to this big girl when I actually did have DD2.
Now its like there was never a time with just DD1 and I, she seems to just think DD2 has been around forever!
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i remember feeling like this, especially on this very day 2 years ago and almost the same time, i was in tears whilst in labour about how scared i was about having bub #2
its ok to be upset, maybe this is the releast you need to go into labour..til then enjoy your gorgeous girl xxxx
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Gosh, im exactly the same. DD and I have a great relationship and im worried about how things will change. really i could have writen your post myself! but im sure it will be great!!!
DD said to me yesterday ''i cant wait to see babys face and give her a kiss and a cuddle'' SO cute! she is only about 7 months older than your DD and im due a week after you.....so you can let me know how it goes ;)
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Oooh..Heaven! These might be on-coming labour hormonal tears! I'm so excited for you! :confetti:
And yep, I understand how you feel the ol' bitter sweet getting a new baby but going to miss the old one. I still can't believe I'm ever going to love another child as much as I love DD but...others have BTDT and they guarantee that it is the case. Big hugs :hug: :hug: :hug:
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big :hug: sweet. What you are feeling is totally normal, and it's OK to give yourself permission to feel like that.
I remember crying the night before I had Nate, feeling so bad for her.
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I feel this way before I had all my winkies... just couldnt imagin loving a new child as much as I did the ones I have, felt very sad, weird and out of sorts , but guess what just as with your 1st the second you lay eyes on your new little bundle you heart opens up and fits in all your children...
Its all normal, enjoy your new little family, remembe she is always the big sister, they always get the new clothes ( well the did in my family lol ) so she wont be too out of sorts when she is older, plus she will always have dips on the front seat too...
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Just remember Heaven that the heart is not a small thing and it can encompass everyone you ever want to love in your life. Yes your life will change with another child but it doesn't have to be for the worse.
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:hug: Aww hun totally normal. It will be hard to start with but your heart will melt even more when you see them interacting! :hug:
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Oh Heaven, you've bought tears to my eyes, we are going to be TTC later this year and I already have these thoughts :)
I have always read your posts with admiration and I am excited for you to have another baby to love so dearly..
I truly believe that when you have two to love it doesn't result in your kids each getting half your love, instead your heart doubles in size
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Hugs lovely :hug:
I must admit I wasn't as stressed about DS arriving... But I wanted to share some of the beautiful moments we three now share.
DS is starting to want to be around DD all the time. He crawls over to her, he pulls at her, his eyes follow her wherever she goes and his little face just lights up when he sees her.
She comes into his room with me in the morning and says "Hi little man, good morning little man!" and he chortles and goos at her.
Whenever someone comes to our house, she runs to the door and they say to her "Hi I", and she points to herself and says "I'm Abel" then runs to find DS and says "That's Anda!" and makes sure they say hi to him as well.
In the car, he travels much better than DD did on her own because he has her next to him. She laughs, he laughs. She babbles, he babbles back at her.
And cutest of all, when he gets upset in the car, she tells him "Don't cry Anda, it's ok Anda" and then holds his hand. And then tells me she's holding his hand. Aww.
I just know your DD is going to be the most beautiful big sister. You three will also share some lovely moments and create a beautiful set of memories. She and your new bub will redefine you as a mumma. I say this with the utmost love - you will look back on this time of stress and worry and wonder what all the fuss was about :comfort:
I can't wait to hear your BA hun.
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I have only just had number 1 and I am already thinking of this!!! Lol.
Enjoy the Last few days together!! She is going to be an amazing big sister and I love what someone else said about how when you have another child, your love for them gets divided, but your heart doubles.
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:hug: I know that feeling. I felt the same way just before DD arrived. I was so excited about meeting our much wanted baby but I was so, so sad that it was the end of DH and I as just a 'couple'. I quickly got over that :lol: so I suspect I'll feel much the same about our next baby (only it would be affecting our family of three ;)) but as everyone else has said, it sounds like you quickly get over that feeling.
We all understand where you're coming from. Enjoy those last few days with your DD but don't be afraid, the precious times are only about to get better :hug:
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Yup, I know how you feel here too. It's something that I've been thinking about in the background - and when I'm about due I have a feeling I'll be having a big ol' cry about it too.
Your DD will be a gorgeous big sister. Maybe re-read that thread with all those beautiful stories about siblings interacting? You'll be looking forward to it then. I hope you don't have too much longer to wait :hug:.