Well i got to 27 weeks before freaking out....

I have been reading these forum posts for a while now but have decided today might be the time to reach out...:p
I lost my son thomas at 31 weeks last april and am now currently 27 weeks pregnant again. I am finding it all getting abit stressful at the moment as we get closer to thomas' anniversary as i will be nearly the same weeks along this go around.
I am trying so hard to be positive at the moment and i think i have actually coped really well with thomas' death but i feel like i am hanging on by a thread at the moment as i am finding it hard to imagine that things will actually work out this time.

How have other parents coped with this?

Hi ChippyRabbit, unfortunately there are so many other ladies that have been through what you have & I honestly am amazed and blown away with the strength of ladies who have delivered sleeping angels - I just don't know how they come out the other side.

I"m sure that some of those said ladies will find this thread very soon & can give you some wonderful words of advice, encouragement & support.

In the meantime I wish you so much love and strength to get through the next 4-5 weeks. Please reach out to us here on BB. We are all here to send you so many :hug:

Love Jayne xx

Hi chippyrabbit, I totally understand you feeling stressed. With my last pregnancy, after losing Emmanuel I was scared throughout my whole pregnancy, it wasn't until Bella was born and I could see that she was alright, then I was ok. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better but I don't think there is. Lots of :hug:.

Regards,
Dianne

Hi Chippyrabbit

You have done so well this year, it sucks that you are struggling but i am glad that you have reached out for support. You are awesome and it is gonna be lovely when you get to take your bub home.

take care matey,

V

chippyrabbit, i am so glad you have found the strength to speak out and i am so sorry for the loss of your little man Thomas.

I personally haven't been through a loss like yours but i wanted you to know there is LOTS of support here on BB and wonderful women who will be able to give you some amazing advice.

My mum lost a son to SIDS when i was 4, i asked her recently how she managed to go on and have more children, her response "i had to think positive in the fact that i couldn't possibly be unlucky enough to have it happen again" - she was right, she has 2 more beautiful boys who are healthy teenagers now.
Didn't mean she never stressed about it all though and it's only normal to feel anxious, hell i felt anxious having my own kids and i hadn't suffered through loosing a child.

Please stay strong and know there are plenty of people here to chat if you need it.

That's so strange, my first freak out was at 27 weeks too :o (I blogged about it here)

Sorry, not helpful... Um... All I really did (what I am doing) was push through it. If I felt sad, I let myself feel sad. If I was angry, I hit some pillows and raged and cried and all the things I do when I'm angry. Of course you should stay positive, but it can be hard sometimes. Just as long as you accept the huge probability that this baby will be fine, you should be alright. If you're that way inclined, arm yourself with statistics, like I did. Meditate, if you want. If you feel you have to, head to the hospital and get them to hook you up to a heart rate monitor (this may involve having to lie about not feeling bub move, though...) Whatever usually makes you feel better or less scared about normal things, do that.

I am still scared with only 4 weeks to go i keep thinking i wont be bringing this baby home i try to tell myself surely i cant be that unlucky where lightning will strike twice and there are other ladies who have lost bubs and gone on to have babies with no problems i just hold on to that hope and take it one day at a time and every morning when i wake up and feel her move is a huge relief.

I hope everything turns out perfect this time for you all the best XXXX

How are you doing now, Sweetie?