I feel like I abandoned him :(

ds goes to pre school 2 days per week. He has been going to this same centre for almost 3 years now, just a different room this year.

At first he was fine, as soon as we get there he would run off to play and say "bye mummy".. now last week, he started crying and saying he didn't want to go to school, he wanted to stay home with me, he will miss me (that broke my heart). I thought it was just because I was sick last week... but he did it again this morning :(

What could be causing him so much anxiety about going, when he has known all the kids for almost 3 years??

This morning when I left, he was crying, holding out his arms and saying mummy don't go... now i'm :crying: just writing this.. I feel like I abandoned him.

I had the exact same thing happen with my DD who just turned 3 and went into the big kids room. The first few weeks she was fine then we had hysterics for a couple of weeks and this week she was fine, still a little clingy but the teachers come over and occupy her a little to let me leave. She also stops crying minutes after I walk out the door.

It will pass, but I know how aweful you feel at the moment. Just thinking about it now upsets me.

:hug: Its so hard leaving them and its 100 times worst when they don't want to be left. Can you call the centre and ask how he is now?

yes I did call and they said he is fine.. however that doesn't make me feel any better at all :( I just wish I knew what triggered this behaviour and why he suddenly doesn't want to go :(

OMG Oskar says the same things and he's almost 4 now... been going for a year. He started doing it at hmmm around 3 yrs and 4ish months..?? They told me it was actually rather normal for kids to go through feeling anxious at this age even if they hadn't before... because they're more aware of things now... a bit more aware of time and feelings etc. Oskar tells me, I don't like to go to kindy by myself, I will miss you. I hug him and tell him I'll miss him too but that the teachers love him to come and play and learn with them. Hopefully it passes quickly for him... for me... it's still going :( I hug him and stay for varied times... from 5 mins to 30 mins...he's always ok within 5 mins max. It's just the initial me going he doesn't like. :hug: