Enough already, I wanna sleeeeeeeeeep

Okay I seriously need some advice. Our situation is like this, We tried controlled crying with DS1 for about 18mths after he was born and it didnt work for us so we started to co-sleep. When DS2 was born we put a cot next to our bed with 1 side off and DS1 slept in there while DS2 slept with us. When we moved last year we put them both into a bed next to ours. Now we have moved again and they have their own room and share a bed. DS2 can go to sleep alone, DS1 requires we stay with him until hes asleep- its annoying but okay.
The bad bit is when he wakes at midnight crying for mummy, and if I dont go in and sleep with him or bring him to our bed, if I just settle him back to sleep he will then wake about every 90mins crying for mummy.
I dont know what to do with him and in afew months we'll have baby #3.
Anybody been through this?
Anybody got some magic remedy or some advice?
I'd like to not have to go through this every night and have a full night s sleep before the new baby comes :p

I don't have any advice - I only have one child and we co-sleep from time to time. I just wanted to come and give you a big hug and send some zzzzzzzzzzz vibes to your DS1. Thought of getting a king size bed?!

Hehe thanks. Our bed is as big as can get here 230cm. Perhaps when the baby comes he'll get a taste of his own medicine and start wanting to sleep through the night

Have you tried a mattresss on your floor? So he can choose to sleep in his big bed, or the mattress on your floor as long as he is quiet.

He's maybe a bit rattled from the controlled crying? I dunno.

Maybe a couple of months co-sleeping will make him secure enough to be able to sleep right through. It sounds like he just needs his mumma.

Sorry should have said, We tried controlled crying with DS1 and it didn't work, we tried it again for a few nights with DS2 and he just got too upset so we have decided its not something we like. DS2 Has been waking up every night for months. At 3 I wouldn't have thought he was too young to sleep through the night by himself (in bed with his brother) but...

Any ideas, comments? :dunno:
Anybody?
:asleep:

How old is he?

Turns 3 tomorrow.
He sleeps fine until about midnight, then wakes up screaming for "mummy!" and will do so every 90 mins (apprx) after that if I don't get in to bed with him/ or he comes into our bed.
We spent a week just shushing him back to sleep and it didn't get any better.- did we give up too soon?
And if we just leave him he gets hysterical and wakes the neighbors and his brother (we live in an apartment)
There is no support here past the hospital for family's which SUCKS!

just a thought, as it worked with my ds1, have you tried putting a flip couch (you know one of those little kiddie foam ones) on the floor beside your bed? when he wakes at night put him in there to sleep beside your bed? that way he can hear you sleeping and is close enought to feel safe, but you have the freedom of your bed, and if he dose wake you can drape your hand down and hold hands to sleep? it did work for us, after a few months i started to place him sleeping on the flip couch in his bed, sort of tricked him into sleeping in it i guess.
hope you find something that works for you.

I will see if we can get something like that. short or that I suspect we'll have to put him back into the cot, next to our bed (sigh) Hope we can convince DS1 to stay by himself in his bed.

It feels like a step back wards but sometimes you gotta go back to go forward right?!