Probably a very unpopular question!

Ok, so I know this will get some peoples knickers in a knot but I'm at my wits end!

There is a boy in DD's kindy class so he's 5-6 years old. DD was sat next to him at the beginning of the year and we ended up having her moved in week 2 because she was screaming, crying and not wanting to go because this boy was screaming at her, getting in her face, punching and pushing her.

So all has been better. I see this boy every morning and afternoon and he's always doing the same sort of things to other kids in the class, this morning I saw him kicking toddlers and he even purposely tripped another student who was running past.

I feel sorry for the littler guy, by the sounds of it he's raised by his grandmother and the mum isn't around for whatever reason.

His behaviour this morning was very violent, I was actually really concerned, to the point where I didn't let DD out of my sight until the bell rang and she went inside.

I'm also disappointed with how the teacher on morning duty handled it, it was basically fobbed off, he wasn't asked to apologise or anything.

I'm worried about DD's safety, I'm concerned one day I'm going to get a call to say she's been pushed down some stairs or has a broken arm from being tripped over.

I just don't know how to approach the subject with the teacher, I don't want to get the little boy in trouble more so make sure he gets the help he needs and that the rest of the class are "safe".

I'm also aware that the parents/guardians of difficult/full on kids are often very stressed and at their wits end as well but there are also those that really don't give a toss.

What on earth am I meant to do? I want to protect my daughter and I want to make sure this little guy gets help but he really isn't any of my business.

You are well within your rights to want to bring this up with the school. The little boy needs help, or at least his behaviour to be addressed, and other kids in the class shouldn't have to put up with being hit or pushed. You don't have to come up with solutions, that is the school's job, but i would be letting the schhol know what you saw and your concerns. If you don't feel the teacher is listening go to the principal.

Go straight to the principal or vice and let them know what you saw. It is unacceptable that he is doing this. Yes, he needs pulling up now while he is still young. He might have a hard background but it is no excuse for hurting others.

He can be asked to sit in the foyer when he gets to school til the bell rings. Has the principal or vice been made aware of his behaviour to others or has the teacher just handled it?
Sometimes the teacher does not let higher up know as they think they are not doing their job correctly

I agree with going straight to the principal, the school must have some sort of behaviour plan in place, the other students need to feel safe too. Good luck.


Regards,
Dianne

As a learner teacher, our lecturers drum into us how important it is to create a safe school environment where children are free from harm, and it doesn't sound like your school is providing that for your DD and the other children. It's hard when he does seem to have a lot of issues, but they really need to be working with him on that so he can learn to control his outbursts because it will only get worse as he gets older if he isn't taught now. I'd be making an appointment to see the Principal and her class teacher to see what can be done, because this is going to start impacting on her to the point where she will flat refuse to go to school. And surely there are other parents who aren't happy about this either, so the sooner it is dealt with the better.

I would go to the principal, however much the childs family may be struggling with his behaviour, your only concern needs to be the safety and well being of your child.
I dont care how "un-PC" it is to intervene, if another kid is harrasing/harming my child, you can bet your bottom dollar I am not going to sit back and say nothing.
I have felt your pain, and I hope you can get it resolved.

I agree with Trillian, make an appointment with the Prinicpal and class teacher together. If you approach the teacher, but not the Principal, then the principal is none the wiser in the situation. If you go to the Principal, the teacher may feel undermined, and left out of the loop..Not sure if i made any sense there (lack of sleep here today) basically, if you get them both together, then they both know, and you have a less chance of the 1 person you approach, pretending you didn't try to bring it to their attention earlier. (Not saying that's what would happen, just in case though)

I third the principle/teacher meeting.

FWIW - the apprentice mechanic at dh work was raised by his grandparents. His sister and mother are into d r u g s, his father committed suicide when he was little, and his grandparents aren't exactly nice to him... BUT he's surprisingly all round nice guy. Doesn't matter the adversity, it can be overcome...

hope things are sorted out quickly and painlessly xx

I stayed behind this afternoon and had a chat to the teacher, will see what happens but now I have an issue with DS's teacher!

I'm very over this freakin school!

Thanks for the replies everyone, nice to know I wasn't being heartless.

ring the school, ask them in person for an appt with the principal and the class teacher.

TMS - regardless of the behind the scenes issues you shouldn't feel bad about pointing out potentially dangerous behaviour. The teacher may also need some assistance to help her deal with it too. I have also been quite shocked at some of the behaviour at kinder, it is a wild world out there!!!