looking for some advice? csection and pregnancy after??

hi guys,
im not sure if im in the right spot (sorry if im not)... i have just been through a great ordeal, after having 3 misscarrages i was blessed with a baby girl Isabelle, she had very complex heart conditions(transpostion of great ateries,hypoplastic right ventrical,missing tricupid valve ect ), and after she was born more complications, tof, tracheo eophitgeal fistula, everything was going to be fine and was fixable but then she started to have bad sleep apna, due to floppy airways, that was unrepiarable, she was delivered on the 9/1/11 via csection and passed away on the 4/2/11 after a 2 1/2 day battle...

ive had few complication witht he csection, got an infection on the wound (which is healed now) got an infection in my womb (which is also healed now) and lots of bleeding after it. then last week devolped a cyst which burst...

but now im a mother with no baby in my arms and despretly want another child, not to replace her as she was very specail and always will be, but i want another baby to love and hold again.

everytime i have tried to speak with my doctor about trying again, he has just said dont worry about right now, but i am worring about it now. and looking for somone who has advice or help on having another baby 3months after csection. would it be worth falling pregnant now or should i wait im not sure, the only thing im sure on is i want another baby.. a healthy one!! so if anyone can help me that would be great

I'm so sorry that your little princess had to depart so early, and that you had issues with your c-section recovery.

There are no issues with falling pregnant after a c-section however you will need to ensure that your body is completely healed before you fall pregnant again, I can't remember the time line I'm sorry but your infection will make the length slightly longer.

All the best xxx

Firstly I am so sorry about the loss of you dd. :hug:

With my ds my Ob recommended waiting 9mths to ensure all was healed and to give me the best chance for vbac if that's what I wanted.

I'm sorry for the loss of your daughter. Gbh's hun. Me personally I fell pregnant with dd 7 months after having Ds2 (all 3 of mine have been c-section) there was no problem with my scar or anything. It was quite tough on my body though, unbearable back and lifament pain. My body hadn't recovered enough from Ds2 and was quite unhappy under the pressure of another pregnancy. I was told I should wait at least 12 months between pregnancies. As I said I had no real problems with being pregnant again so soon. It was just a tougher pregnancy.

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I am so sorry that your daughter passed away :hug: and that you have had so many problems following your CS

I can't give you information from personal experience, but my sister was pregnant only 5 months following her CS and although she had a repeat CS this was through choice, her doctor was more than willing to support a VBAC if she had wanted. The difference is that she did not have any wound complications that may have set healing back further. There is no hard and fast rule about how long is safe between pregnancies, different doctors will say different things (some say a year, others 3 months). I think you need a 2nd opinion from a doctor who can examine your wound, and give you proper information about how healed it is. Also perhaps speak to SANDS as they will have met mothers in your situation and may be able to give some good advice.

thank you's for the help and sorry for the late reply i was unable to get on the net,
i went back to the doctors yesterday, but said to him firmly that i wanted to know and dont just tell me worry about it later, he had a look at my scar, said it is healing nicly now, there wouldnt be any harm if i fell pregnant, but i would be advised to have another csection, and not try to have a natural, but the pregnancy itself shouldnt cause any complications. but due to my prev loss's and then isabelle, he said i wouldnt be monited very closly like a high risk pregnancy, even though it might not be high risk, so if there were complications they will find it early rather then later. but he said i also might have problems concieving after the complications ive had from CS, i didnt like that, as with all my babys i have concieved right away. but now its just a matter of getting my partner to agree after all this he doesnt want to try anymore, thanks everyone for a help xox

firstly im so sorry for the loss of your little girl :hug: that sounds like such a hard battle :comfort:

im going through a slightly similar situation, i gave birth to our son at 38 weeks, he was born 'sleeping' and right now it's been 3 weeks and im left with no baby, and i physically NEED a baby, it's the hardest feeling.....:crying:

i was lucky to have a natural birth though. i did have a c/s with DS #1, and i know that the recovery was pretty hard. he was 9 months when i fell pregnant with DD, and my hospital offered me a VBAC, which turned out great. but i can understand how you might want another c/s, or the hospital might want you to have another one.

i also understand your DH's thoughts as well, mine is a little bit at that stage as well, just doesn't want to think about another baby yet. all i can say is, if your DH is as understanding as mine, just tell him how you're feeling. what you're going through. what you're scared of and what you want. i think it's nice to talk about it all....

i really hope things get easier for you soon, so sorry for your loss, and i wish you all the best ;)

I'm so sorry for everything you have been through butterfly,
I had a bad infection after my CS with my DD1, I was in no way way trying to conceive DD2 but fell pregnant with her barely less then 3 mths later (lovely surprise). I had a pretty normal pregnancy, appart from both being breach but that wouldnt have anything to do with this. Infact this pregn was easier & more enjoyable then DD1. and my 2nd Cs was in no way related to my previous cs or the trouble i had with the infection.
Good luck with getting your DP to agree, I hope everything works out perfectly for you!

hun so sorry you have gone through this horrible ordeal

you do the most healing you are going to do in the three months post surgery.....so i don't see why you can't get pregnant now :)