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just wondering why is it that some babies have no trouble sleeping. they fall asleep so easily, stay asleep for hours and sleep through from such an early age? i am wondering if my children were such bad sleepers not because that is just the way there were but because i was doing something wrong? if i was to have a third baby should i expect to have all the sleeping issues we had previously because its the way i do something that makes them that way?
Hollo - same reason as why some people like english humour, and others like american humour. It's just part of them. I had Will sleeping lots from birth, but that was cause he wasn't getting enough milk and needed all his energy to get milk from me. As long as your baby is sleeping, eating and being alert, and putting on weight, that's the main thing. Just go with the flow and for me, it means less stress and more enjoyment.
thanks kazbah. i dont have a baby at the moment, i was just thinking back to when my two were little and comparing them to friends babies. (i know that is something i shouldnt do)!! but it is just so easy for some people. and as crazy as this may sound, and i feel guilty for even thinking it but i will put it out there.. i reckon i would have enjoyed my babies more and had more of a nice experience and attitude if they were good sleepers.
I had one awesome sleeper and another not so good sleeper as babies. I believe that it is mostly in their nature. If you give them the best possible chance to sleep and they still don't then it's just the way they are. Every baby is different when it comes to sleep so your next one could be an absolute dream to get to sleep. I will admit that I enjoyed the baby phase with DD2 a lot more than with DD1 because I had a lot more sleep deprivation first time round which made things so much more difficult. So don't feel bad about feeling that way. As for comparing your babies with others, unless you live with them 24/7 you can never be sure if they are telling the truth when it comes to their babies' sleep habits ;) plus it all evens out in the end. Perfect babies don't necessarily mean perfect toddlers, tweens or teenagers ;) xx hugs to you from a mum who's now on 3 yrs 3 months of sleep deprivation xx I feel your pain ;)
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Not fair is it? DS always had trouble, but DD was great for the first few weeks, then started having trouble. She's still not as bad as DS though. I know they're all different and it's just pot luck, but I still sometimes wonder if I did something wrong too :hug:
There are enough parents around with very good and very bad sleepers to prove that it really isn't anything you do. You never know, you might get sleep next time round
I think its just in their natures. I also wonder if its genetic. I remember the CHY nurse with DD asking if I had trouble sleeping, which I do, it takes me ages to get to sleep, and DD is the same now. the same nurse also told me about a study that the children's hospital did here to do with trouble settlers and she said they all had a similar personality as DD -I can't remember the exact traits now.
Sometimes, with DS, I do wonder if it was something I did or didn't do, as now he sleeps so much better and goes to sleep really quickly unlike DD who will lie there for a good 30mins.