So what are the 3 things you absolutely, positively need to know before you give birth?
Did you learn stuff at the webinar?
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So what are the 3 things you absolutely, positively need to know before you give birth?
Did you learn stuff at the webinar?
That YOU are in control. It's your baby and your body remind the mw and obs of that.
The ring of fire. Although not something you would really now until you felt it.
And move around helps ;)
Love MN ;-)
Missed the webinar unfortunately, so I'm not sure what kinds of ideas were offered or if I'm even on the right track with these ones...
But for me, what I know now after my last birth... what I'm determined to take with me for the next one, is the mental rather than the 'practical' stuff:
1. Your body knows what it is doing. Listen to it. Before the birth practice tuning into it and work on developing faith in your body's ability to birth your child. And during the birth, listen to your body. Not your mind, not the voices of others, not what you read in a book or learnt in your birth classes. And do what it needs you to do to get comfortable, get bubs to move, feel rested, get hydrated... whatever it needs.
2. Stay in the moment - don't get attached to how long or how much... when, why, what am I doing wrong.... Just get through this bit, this in-breath and then this out-breath. (And the adjunct to that - mindful breathing and mantras really help!)
3. As much as possible, ensure beforehand that you have a birthing environment and support team that allow you to do the first two. Bright lights, a clinical environment, time pressures, demands and expectations... all these things may take your consciousness away from your body and the present moment.
1.Be informed of the options you have just incase things dont goto plan. Better to be informed before hand than to make decisions when your mind isn't in the right place.
2. stay calm and listen to your body
3. Make sure everything at home is taken care of other children etc so you can focus on the situation at hand organise your plan of attack and have backup plans in place. Eg babysitters, contacts etc.
One thing is to have your camera packed and ready in your bag I had my bag packed and forgot to put in the camera as I went early may not be an essential things but one thing I wish i had with me instead of a crappy phone camera.
1. The pain does end pretty quickly after baby is out. All pain will come to an end eventually...even the ring of fire.
2. Vaginal birth is what your body is made for. Take religion, spirituality etc et out of the equation and at the very base level of mammalian function is the fact that we're made to give birth vaginally to a baby mammal (unless you're a Marsupial). So, your body knows exactly what it's doing.
3. If you freak out and get worked up, baby gets worked up too. Do your very, very best to not panic. There's no need to panic. As above...your body knows what to do.
Thanks for sharing girls, I registered for the webinar but couldn't make it as my computer had crashed for 2 weeks! I was running a weird operating system and couldn't download anything or get emails... hey I was lucky to be able to log onto belly belly at all! but that's another thread.
Sounds like it was great and very empowering. Thanks Kel for organising it and sorry I didn't show up :redface:
Haven't read the other replies yet but based on my experience:
1. You body DOES know what it needs to do
2. Don't just assume becaus your Dr says it must be done that it really MUST BE DONE.. REASEARCH
3. Fight for your rights.. it's your right to fight :)
This is a great point. We loved our OB, he was gentle, not pushy at all, gave us the stats, his opinion and then 100% left it up to us to decided while he happily answered as many questions as we asked. BUT if we went with ALL of his recommendation than we wouldn't have birthed the placenta naturally hence having that injection would have taken away from my 'natural' birth. As it happened I loved my birth, my OB and the whole experience. EMPOWER yourself ladies, I think that is the general message here isn't it?:
