Just really upset right now

My father just rung me to ask how old my DS1 is, it's his 9th birthday on Thursday and i thought seem as he's the last person to know i should tell him we are expecting another bundle but his comment was "more the fool you". My own father can't even find the words to say congratulations, i feel sick i'm in tears that he is such an ar$ehole that he çan't even say something nice. I'm 32yrs old, i'm married, i can provide a good home for my children and i am getting treated like i have done the worst thing in the world. I think i actually hate him right at this moment more than i ever have for being such a rotten father.

:hug: :hug: im shocked he said that to you..... How rude!!

Your dad sounds like a really cranky unhappy old man who cant be happy for anyone.

Btw.... Congrats!!!!! :)

Thanks Shanti wow your nearly 35wks not long to go now :)

He just upset me so much and i should know better than to let him get to me. Think it annoys me more because i know that we have a stable home for our children, it's not like DH isn't a good father or money earner or anything, we've never needed handouts from family we have always been responsible so no real reason for him to even say anything like that. He is just horrible horrible and more horrible.

:hug: I wish he could have been happy for you.

Regards,
Dianne

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Don't let his reaction take away from what is a really happy time for you x

:hug: sorry he behaved like such an ass hun. Mine can be the same sometimes so I get how you feel.

Wow, that certainly is unacceptable, but you know what, that is obviously his own insecurities about his parenting, and his inability to feel secure in raising children.

You know you will do an amazing job, and just don't let his reaction hamper your joy over such an amazing thing that is happening to your family!

congratulations!

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Far out danni, what a horrible thing to say! Sounds like he has his own issues and he's taking them out on you - no wonder he was the last to know.

Sounds stupid I know, but just forget about it, it's not worth the stress. If he can't be happy for you, just consider him as one less person to share the happy details with - go to people you know will support you :hug:

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Yes Kaytee i don't live 6000kms away from him for no reason at all.

He only met DS2 for the first time in February this year he was already two and i can tell you he has no money issues he flys here there and everywhere several times a year. He met us at the airport in Perth (he was there on a change over flight from work and we were on holidays) and he was more interested in his mates than the grandkids he hadn't seen in three years... sometimes i just don't get my family. He wonders why the boys are so standoffish towards him and treat him like a stanger, you can't expect anything less they got no idea all he does is throw money there way at xmas and birthdays. Kids don't remember money they remember spending quality time with family that love them and spend time with them, we are lucky DH's family are great.

He's missing out, seriously. I don't understand a grandparent that wouldn't want more time with their grabdchildren, but they have you and I'm guessing a support network through friends and family that are much better than your dad. His loss :hug:

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Hmmm, that songs "Cats in the Cradle" comes to mind in regards to your dad. - he doesn't find time for family so when the time comes they wont have the connection to find it for him. Anyway..

No matter if we really don't expect it from previous experience it still hurts to have our excitement crushed by someone we expect more from. :hug:

Congratulations on your little Wigglet (very cute name).

that sucks.....family suck sometimes...

congrats btw......

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Hmmm, that songs "Cats in the Cradle" comes to mind in regards to your dad. - he doesn't find time for family so when the time comes they wont have the connection to find it for him. Anyway..

No matter if we really don't expect it from previous experience it still hurts to have our excitement crushed by someone we expect more from. :hug:

Congratulations on your little Wigglet (very cute name).

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You know i can't even remember where i got the name wigglet from, it was completely random on the day.

Poor thing, sorry he was so awful. My father is so awful I haven't even told him about mine, and I haven't spoken to him in nearlly a year.

Don't let him get you down :)

Oh hun I am sorry... sounds like my dad :shakehead:

A huge congrats on your exciting news babe xoxox