i feel im not wining in every way :(

DD is 26 months old and i feel like a failure,i just feel some days that i cant handle her anymore,she is so full on and not always naughty but i feel i cant get anything done and lately going out is too scarey because of how she will be she cannot sit still for five seconds and when shes throwing tannys or misbehaving nothing i do or say does anything she just looks at me as if "Ohyeh??"shes such a character and i love her dearly but im 21 weeks pregnant and my tiredness and nerves are getting the better of me.It doesnt help that all the milestones i have tried she just wont do,sounds crazy but she still has a bottle!!(only at night before sleeping)and she wont sleep in her own bed still the cot and we tried toilet training with no success either i just feel maybe im not tough enough or something?im going crazy how do i take back control??:wall:

My DD1 is 2 years, 8 months and still has a bottle in the middle of the day. Its easier than fighting her over it, she has a cup the rest of the time.

She isn't toilet trained, and I'm not trying until she is ready.

I don't think these "milestones" mean much, if your child isn't ready, then they aren't ready. At the end of the day, its not a big deal if they toilet train at 2 or 3 - by the time they go to school they won't be in a nappy and nobody will ask when they toilet trained.

Toddlers are supposed to test us, and mine do (I have two toddlers at the moment) and I just pick my battles. Cos otherwise I would be screaming at them all bloody day.. LOL

Hugs 1pj (damn you autocorrect kept trying to make that 1pm :lol: )

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My DD must be 26mths too and she is driving me and my DH up the wall ATM. Everything she says is "NO" and she constantly does things that she knows she is not supposed to do.

Hardest for me is her behavior Towards her brother, which was bad, then got so much better and is now bad again. I think it just goes in cycles and this is now a downward cycle for us, maybe for you too.

I know how hard it is while you are pg - tough tough tough. :hug: More hugs...

As Mel says - pick your battles. Who cares if she still has a bottle? Mine doesn't have a bottle but she has a sippy cup of milk before her nap and also at bedtime.

We are also really hit and miss with TT. We also have the tanties and just horrid behavior.

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This too shall pass.

1pj..stop and take a breath ...guess what??? you are not a failure just a normal tired pregnant Mum.

26 months is a full on age. Get her involved in craft, playdough, cooking etc.

Forget the toilet training for the minute. Give it a break for a month and then start slowly. Some children train overnight some take alot longer. They are usually trained in the day time before night time.

Can you go and do the shopping when your DH gets home. Once a week I used to have tea ready so when he walked in the door he fed the girls, got them to bed and I walked out and had a hour or two to myself.

My brother used to come home from school and have a bottle. She will grow out of wanting one, just don't offer it every night, offer it in a cup first.

Re the cot, keep her in there for the time being. Alot of kids are still in cots at her age. Do you have a bed or mattress in her room. If so, get her to have her day sleep/rest there so she is used to the size and openness.

:hug: your in no way a failure!
milestones are a crock, each child is difrent they develop and learn at there own pace.
my sons were 2 and 3 befor i was able to get them off the bottle, my 5yo has just recently started pinching my 1yo's bottle, toilet training meh if there not ready, there not ready! im still having trouble with my youngest boy who is now almost 4.

could you find a play group close by that you could go to? even if she just sits with you the whole time, i found that having that routine of playgroup one day a week helped the boys settle down, not by much but every little bit helps! (pluss the few hours were they can just play helps your sanity a little to!)

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I also wouldn't be worrying about toielt training, bottles or cots right now.
Try not to think of it as a power struggle, your relationship with your child shouldn't be a win-lose situation, you know? You're working together to find compromises that work for both of you.
So, if for example you need a break and she needs to let off steam, then playgroup or a trip to the park might help. And definitely pick your battles, if she's arcing up over something that's really inconsequential to you, then maybe just let it go.

Thanks so much ladies,i was feeling so emo last night and what you said made me nearly a blubbering mess!Thanks for your support,i guess i see alot of old school people and ones thats kids have grown,im actually going to a play group today first ever so i think she will enjoy it everything you said helped so much so thankyou!!