Having troubles convincing her to wipe - help!!

DD is 5 and has started prep this year. I started noticing when washing her clothes that there was occasionally a bit of mess in her knickers - so asked her about wiping her bottom at school. She told me she did but over the weeks of repeated asking she has now said that she doesn't wipe her bottom at all when she is at school.

When she was first toilet training I wiped for her, and as time went on I taught her how to do it herself by her having a turn after me. She has been wiping fine with me around for a long time (nearly 2 years I think) and I have just stopped paying attention to it. Now for some reason she has decided that if I am not there with her then she doesn't have to do it at all - for a #1 or #2!!!

So we have been talking about it over the past few days now that holidays are here but she is now doing it at home if she goes on her own (which is most of the time). I am worried that she has gotten into a bad habit now and it's going to be really hard for her to break - not to mention the hygiene issues.

Has anyone had this problem? Could this be a bad habit that somehow she has picked up from school?

I had never noticed any problems like this when she was at daycare either.

TIA xx

im not sure if this will help you or not, i have trouble getting my boys to wipe themselves, each time they go the toilet and do poo, i get "mum, need you to wipe my bum" the only way they do it themselves is if i leave baby wipes in the loo, i think ds holds it till he gets home tho as i havent come across any skiddies...


hopefully someone can answer for you soon.

We struggle to get DD1 to wipe with #2's. She obviously does it herself hen we are not around, but when we are home with her she calls for us to wipe for her. She was doing really well, then she got a messy one and struggled to deal with it.

Wish I could give you some advice, I have come close to posting a similar help thread myself. We have encouraged, we have threatened (can't go to school if you don't wipe). We do praise her when she does wipe herself and if we have to help her, I try to explain what to do. I do remember chatting to my MCHN about it probably 18 months ago and she mentioned it might have something to do with laziness.

Best of luck with it all, I just wish there was some magic answer.