Suggestions for bedtime and night time visitors.

I have 2 issues here:
ONE: DD1 is 2.5years and DD2 is 1years. They have always shared a bedroom and I have always had these problems - DD2 goes to bed first - usually about 6/6.30pm DD1 goes to bed (we try) at 7.30/8pm. DD1 has always had the routine of dinner, bath, books, bed but still refuses to go to bed and then wakes up DD2 in the process - then they are both awake till whenever.

Does anyone else have 2 kids in the same bedroom that has similar issues? How do you get around it?

dd1 rarely has a daytime sleep anymore - where she gets her energy I will never know, she is usually up at 6.30/7am then sometimes isn't going to bed until 9pm.

TWO: DD1 coming into our bed. This seems to happen every night and has done for a while now. Anytime from 1am - 6am. Now I don't mind if she comes in at 6am for a cuddle but sleeping there all night - i'm a little over it. I try ptting her back to her own bed when I know she is in there but when i don't know she ends up being there all nigth and i'm sure that she thinks she can get away with it.

So, any other suggestions???

Don't have any real suggestions, but last night dd (2.5) wasn't in bd until 10pm and she sleeps in our bed every night. I just keep telling myself it's not forever.

I hope you get some helpful advice!

How is your one year old getting in your room? isnt she still in a cot?

cant help with sleeping in the room together my boys still dont! ds2 gose to sleep on the couch and is then transferd to bed, he did wake threw the night and sneak into my room, he eventualy grew out of it at arround 2.5 yrs. dd1 is back in her bed almost everynight now df just kept putting her back in her cot till she stayed there. (he put her back as id get up to her cries and put her in with us!) am about to start this week with the girls in the same room.

She may be a little young for this, but what do you think about a sticker chart? If she stays in bed until (insert whatever you want) she gets a sticker. Likely a bit age inappropriate but it is an idea.
Other than that, putting her back to bed every single time. If you do that for a week, then you will hopefully see a difference. It needs to be every time though and for that week, can be both very physically and emotionally draining.

I can't give advice cos I'm currently sitting here in bed feeding the baby, with Dd2 next to me and DS next to her lol

We bribe them to stay in their beds - they get 10 cents for every night. Looks like kelti gets her's this morning and Aricyn misses out lol!!!!

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How is your one year old getting in your room? isnt she still in a cot?

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DD1 is the one coming into our room (Maybe I mistyped that in the OP?)

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I can't give advice cos I'm currently sitting here in bed feeding the baby, with Dd2 next to me and DS next to her lol

We bribe them to stay in their beds - they get 10 cents for every night. Looks like kelti gets her's this morning and Aricyn misses out lol!!!!

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LOL Thats gold!

We are doing a sticker chart with DD1 - not that there is many on there LOL
I just keep telling myself she will grow out of this soon...... i hope....

Both our girls share a room. And because it is just me doing the bedtime routine most nights. I have given them both the same bedtime. Its so much easier and they both like going to bed at the same time as the other. Also means I am kid free at the same time every night. Only downside is that now I am missing out on my one on one time with DD1, But we make up for that in other ways now.
So I would either gradually bring back DD1's bedtime and maybe try and make DD2's bedtime that bit later??

As for coming to your bed at night, we always end up with both girls in our bed at some point during the night. My thinking is that I should enjoy the cuddles whilst they last cause in a couple of years they will more than likely never want to sleep in our bed etc...

Good luck tho!

We have just managed (I think!!!) to get DD to sleep in her room all night. About two weeks ago (there's a thread I wrote about it), I put a mattress in her room and I slept there for four nights. Each time I busted her getting out of bed, I'd put her back into her bed, let her know I was there and she'd go back to sleep. Then for another couple of nights, I started in my bed. When she got up, I took her back to her bed and spent the rest of the night in her room. Then we had a night where she just cried out, so I went in to settle her and returned to my own bed. The last three nights, she has slept through. She comes into our room at around 7am. She hasn't cried out or tried to get up. So far, and I know it's early days, it's worked. The last time she slept solo all night was back in November, and that was for one night. I don't know how well this will work with having two kids. Good luck with whatever you try :hug:

Hi... sorry to hear youre having such a problem. I have my 3 girls in the one room. DD1 was a little like your dd1.... in and out all night til she fell asleep and would creep into our bed and sleep with us. Any time we put her back she would have a massive tantrum which is not something we wanted during the wee hours. It took us ages to get her like she is now (a kiss, cuddle, goodnight, close door). I was so sick of having to put her back all the time so I resorted to sitting with her in the dark for ages until she would fall asleep. Then we did story time in the dark, we did counting, singing. Sometimes I would sit there with her for a few hours. It was pretty crap actually.... I wasnt enjoying her at all at nights. ABout 6 to 8 months ago, she just decided she could do it. She was about 3.5years old.
As for nights we made a rule of no kids in with us until after 6am unless they were sick. So we just kept putting them back to bed.... with dd1 we always had to lay with her til she fell asleep... she also grew out of that,
DD2... just went with the flow of it all and when she went into a bed at 18 months she was a bit of a pain to keep in but got the hang of it.
DD3 is only 6 months old....

One thing I would tend to agree with if they are sharing a room is to keep their bed times the same. That way they can talk to each other, tell each other to be quiet... And then you dont have to do 2 seperate routines... you get to finish up with the both of them and have some well deserved you time. I hope she works it out for you real soon.

I had my 2 oldest boys share a room and they are 2 years apart when we were going through either of them coming out of their bed/room after it was their bed time we just kept getting up turning them around and marching them straight back to bed we had to keep it up for a few nights(even if they cried) but they learnt we were not going to give in so you MUST be consistent if you give in once they win and will know they can break you lol( so to speak) and we always used a specific word for bed time so they knew it was bed time we used nigh nigh time they boys both went to bed at the same time until they were in school and went with no fuss once 7:30 hit and i said nigh nigh time so teeth book and bed.

One exception was if they were sick they were allowed to sleep with mum and dad but that was the only time as DH and i value our alone time you need to draw the line somewhere and co sleeping is so uncomfortable i just cant handle it.
Oh and like minnimatron said 6am was when they were allowed in for cuddles during the nigh absolutely a no go zone.