feeling very anxious

I just need some advice.. I'm 33 weeks pregnant with my first baby (this is also my first pregnancy), I've had a few minor problems so far but nothing serious. 3 months ago my cousin's baby was stillborn at 36 weeks for unknown reasons, she is young and healthy and had no problems through her pregnancy.
Now I'm so anxious about my own baby and worry about every little thing. I'm so scared of my own baby being stillborn, seeing my cousin in such a mess really terrified me (I haven't seen her since the funeral, we aren't really close and she feels she needs time which I understand totally). I've discussed concerns with midwives who reassure me it is unlikely but it's so hard not to worry. My husband is so excited and while I am so happy to be pregnant I just can't really enjoy it until my baby arrives safely.
Did many people feel very worried through there pregnancies?

firstly, im so sorry to hear about your cousins baby, and i understand it must be so hard for her,and for you as well. and congratulations on your own baby, you must be very excited :)

as someone who just had a stillborn baby boy a few months ago, all i can say is your fears are very normal. unfortunately though, (and i know this won't allay many of your fears) but if something is to go wrong, it can go wrong very quickly. i had an ultrasound one day, a midwifes appointment the next day, and the day after that my baby was dead. he was born with the cord around his ankles, and no one had picked it up.

i know this isn't what you want to hear, but it is reality. i never thought anything like this would happen to me, but it did. all i can say is, try to remain as calm as you can, keep an eye on your baby's movements, and go into the hospital if you feel the need. and don't be afraid to talk to your doctor's or midwifes about your concerns if you want. and being worried is very normal during pregnancy. try not to stress about things too much. the chances are you and your baby will be fine.

all the best xxxx

Thanks for your reply. I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to your baby and wish you all the best for your future.

i know this didn't answer your question very well, but just wanted to let you know that it happened to me. unfortunately, stillbirth is quite common (i only found this out after becoming one of the statistics) but really, i would try not to worry too much. in all likelihood, everything will be fine for you and your bub ;) i wish you all the best! hope the last few weeks aren't too uncomfortable for you, and good luck with the birth and everything.

So sorry to hear about your cousin. I totally understand what your experiencing cos i have been exactly the same...........actually so bad i had to see psychologists and psychiatrists about it while pregnant.

Ive just had #7. The day i found out i was pregnant with #2 i had been to my best friends funeral for her little boy who passed from SIDS. My entire pregnancy with #2 and 3 was extremely stressful and i was anxious like you are, about the same things. Then i met my now BFF who weeks after meeting her had a stillborn. My pregnancy with #4,5 and 6 i was even worse with my anxiety. #7, i was really good with though, mostly calm, some anxious moments here and there but otherwise good.

All i can suggest is be kind to yourself and keep talking to your healthcare providers about anything you are feeling. Its extremely hard when it happens to someone so close to you because you suddenly realise all this stuff you hadnt been thinking about before. I remember how relaxed i was with #1.

Try and enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can and please talk to your main caregiver about talking to someone if you find yourself unable to cope.

I understand what youre saying too. It's scary when you start thinking about everything, especially after what your poor cousin has experienced.
All I can say is that you have to REALLY remind yourself that you stressing isnt going to help bub or you & unfortunately if something is going to happen, stressing about it won't stop it from happening. Be vigilant & informed about what to be aware of & look out for but apart from that, enjoy your time before bub comes & you have to RELAX.

This is my 2nd pregnancy, but will be my first bub unfortunately, but things happen. Like Mummydreamer I became a statistic before I even knew about those sort of things, but stressing wouldn't have changed anything Im sorry to say.

Look from everything Ive been told the best thing you can do is try to relax & stress less untill bub comes. The more anxious/stressed you are the more chance of complications/longer labor etc. when the time comes.