where to from here?

DP and I have been TTC no 2 now for 15 months.

it took us 18months to conceive last time, then i mc that baby, then 6 months after that to conceive DS.

DP is very "thingy" about it all, he won't "try" in the sense of timing, cycles etc. he has the outlook of "if its meant to happen, it will happen" which is all well and good and to be honest I have been trying not to put too much energy into TTC (thinking about it, obsessing about it etc) as last time I ended up an emotional mess and I don't want to go back there.

so my question is, at what point is it to long to be trying? at what point do we/should we seek help? (I say we, but probably mean me!)
What do I do? how do I go about it?

Do I just go to the GP and say we are having trouble conceiving? what will they do? say? what happens next?

Sorry for all the questions I'm just getting a bit frustrated and worried and do't know what to do....

thanks :)

Hi starrysky
Sorry you're having a hard time. 15 months is definitely enough time to warrant a second opinion. Your gp would be the first step, they can do some basic tests (semen analysis, bt for you to see if you're ovulating) and you'll need a referral before heading to any fs. But it sounds like your current issue is more to do with your DP. You really need to get both of you checked out. The fact that you have a child suggests that it can happen again, however if either of you have unknown issues it could mean that your chances are lower than average which is why it has taken so long. Of course there may be nothing wrong at all and it's just a matter of chance. I know for me i felt a lot better once I had an identified issue that could be dealt with. Good luck!

Starry

Like Kass said, 15mths is a long time! and there is such thing as secondary infertility.
So if your really concerned than maybe go see your GP and have a chat!
Or just try jumping DP around the right times every month, tie him up if you have too ;) and see how that goes :)

I would really like to see a Pregnancy announcement from you really soon :)

Thanks for your replies girls :)

I am still BFing, is it possible this is hindering it? IDK?? DS only really feeds 2x a day (never over night anymore) I got AF back at 6 weeks after having DS, but my cycles do vary, 26-32 days.

hmm..well looks like a trip to the GP may be in order.

im no expert but i wouldn't think that BFing would still be hindering it since your cycle is back and regularish but like i said i am no expert!

But Lovey it isn't going to hurt to see a GP! he/she may help and put your mind at ease!

but i say tie him up and jump him! LOL

Starrysky- I had secondary infertility....3 unexplained mc. I don't ovulate after i mc, and i had really low progesterone. I was put on clomid, even though i concieved every bub in under a year. My DS was when i was 18 and DTD 2x without a condom, i was on the pill.....and the second cycle that i had ever had sex. Had a perfectly healthy little man. And then nothing but trouble since!
I would get checked out, and if you aren't Oing they'll probably put you on clomid.
Good luck, and i hope you get your BFP soon hun xxxx

Starrry I agree with a previous poster that your DH really should get checked out. Who is to say that the problem (if there is one!) is with you? It could very well be a problem with him!
I know it's hard if he doesn't seem to want to engage, but most specialists will only treat couples (ie. Not one half of a couple). I am not sure how old you are but you don't want to waste too much time only concentrating on you without looking at DH as well.

I wonder, how committed to this is your DH?
The GP is probably your first stop, yeah. And you will both need to be checked out.
It's unlikely at this point that bf is hindering conception. If however, you're not having regular ovulatory cycles then you may want to wean to see if that helps.

Starry - what have you decided to do?

Me and my dp have a son named Joshua, he is 7 years old. I have never been on birth control me and dp just used the withdrawl method for avoiding getting pregnant. Sorry if it's too much information. We have been seriously trying to concieve now for the past 2 years.

I went to my dr and Just told him that I was having trouble getting pregnant. Not due to lack of trying. He was just a general doctor and he was very good about it.

My partner went off to have two semen analysis's done and they both came back good just a little low in viscosity which is the semen's ability to move fast but all in all the obsteitrician said it was a healthy male specimen. We concieved our son Joshua by accident in 2004 when we weren't even trying but I was much younger then and so was dp but we concieved him even after my partner had been treated for testicular cancer.

So now its over two years of trying and I joined a forum a month ago. Since finding out about my secondary infertility I have blood tests every 2 weeks to monitor my prolactin levels, a blood test every 21 days to check for ovulation, I have had some dye injected into my fallopian tubes to check for blockages, a diallation and curet, hysteroscopy and laparoscopy (where they insert a camera through your belly button)

While its all a little invasive, I went to see the specialist a month ago and everything inside there seems to be really good. I have one ovary that measures 10cm and one that measures 12cm and one ovary has 16 foliciles and the other 6. The dye they injected got to where it needed to go very quickly.

You can imagine this was great news but somewhat frustrating... where do we go from here? Is what I found myself asking.

Secondary infertility is sometimes somewhat unexplainable, sometimes there is no explination.

My specialist has put me on a pill named clomid 50mg which should assist ovulation. I am on my first round at the moment. I think going to see your doctor would be a really good idea, if not for some piece of mind, but to be reminded that there are options out there and we do need that other person to help steer us in the right direction.

I am optimistic that it will happen for us, and I don't want to give up hope no matter how hard it seems at times.

If you need to talk at all I will be here for you. Best of luck and I hope that things go your way really really soon. :)