A question- your opinion please

I am a single mum to my almost 4 yr old DS. I'm a Beauty Therapist and I run my own business. Lately, I've been asked a lot by clients do I find it difficult to be a single mum and run my own business. And I honestly answer, no. It's all I've known. It's been my DS and I from the beginning and I don't know any different.

Does it make me a bad mum because I dont find it difficult? My clients are all surprised by my answer so it makes me wonder if I'm missing something or is it just because this is how it's always been?

Supermum more like it!

no, it just makes you AWESOME!

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You are definitely not a bad mum. I don't think you're 'missing' anything either.

Good on you! You obviously have great balance in your life. You must be resilient and positive - and that is awesome.

Hell no! Don't you be doubting yourself.

People project all kinds of issues, and just because you've found what works for you, doesn't mean they get to make you feel bad.

No! It works for you and if you are both happy that's all that matters. I guess it just surprises people that you are doing so well and are enjoying it.

Please don't doubt yourself it sounds like your doing an AMAZING job and if it works for you it works for you.

You'll probably find that those clients are used to having some provide for them or assist them with their routine and their children, i have a friend who's been a single mum basically from day 1, she is one of the strongest most amazing women i know, often i ask how the hell she does it and she says it's what she knows and that i'd survive if i had too aswell... it's just a matter of circumstance and what your used to.

you obviously have a wonderful attitude and outlook on life, please don't change that.

No it definitly do not make you are bad mum!!
I agree with Kim don't let them doubt yourself, you sound like you are doing an amazing job and are thoroughly enjoying it :D

No not at all. I have a girlfriend who is a single working Mum, she and childs father separated when bubs was 6 weeks old. And I know she doesn't find it difficult at all (only odd occasion is when she is sick and would love someone to help with her daughter) she sometimes looks at me with my DH and thinks my life is harder as I have to negotiate our parenting styles, how I have a DH who may discipline (sp) something differently to how would etc. She has none of that, she doesn't have to negotiate with anyone and can raise her DD as she would like.

I think you are a credit and showing your child that you can have a good work ethic and they will hold them in good steed later in life

No not at all


Love MN ;-)

Of course you're not a bad mum!

As has been said, you do what you do, and once it becomes "normal" it's not necessarily difficult to thrive in that role. there are many MANY single parents out there doing similar to you, and they all say "it's just what i do". i think the longer you do something (and you've been doing this for quite a while now) the easier it becomes. if you're used to having support (from a partner) and they it's suddenly withdrawn, then yes, it's going to be a whole lot harder to accept and thrive in that situation kwim?

Everyone's situation is different. You're not necessarily 'missing' anything. But other factors change the dynamic - more than one child, a difficult ex, a sick child, etc, etc.

I think they are trying to complement you! Only today I was in a clothes shop with my 3yr old and hubby had our 18 month old on his shoulders (they did not know he was with me). At the checkout the lady goes ' how do you manage with one AND a baby on the way' I told her that my hubby over there had my 18 month old also and she almost had a heart attack. Different strokes for different folks. My hat is off to you. Well done on being such an awesome Mummy. xoxoxox

When its all you've known, its all you've known. You have been in your on groove since bub was born, so you are just used to it.

I agree, you are a supermum

no it makes you amazing! x x x