Just have to get this off my chest..

I have been thinking about my angel baby alot lately (as was recently the second EDD) and was thinking about the D&C as BB Kelly asked for answers on what women who have had a miscarriage hate people saying

anyways when I woke up after my D&C (10 weeks) the nurse who was with me in recovery was really very awful. I was crying and saying "I miss my baby, I just want my baby back" all things I am sure are pretty common.

She said to me:
"don't worry about it, miscarriage is very common, your young you'll have more children".

ahhh, just had to ge that out - How would she know if I could or couldn't have more kids. It has nothing to do with age - She had no idea that I had struggled to get pregnant in the first place so who knew if I'd be able to have more? All I wanted was THAT baby that was gone, not another.

All she needed to say was "I am sorry you lost you baby, you have every right to feel sad and miss him/her.

Thanks for listening!

I'm so sorry that nurse was so cruel :hug: and I know just what you mean about wanting your baby back. It's something I still cry about a lot. Nothing can replace your angel and the hopes and dreams you had for him/her. :comfort:

In my experience, even falling pregnant again doesn't reduce the yearning for my angel :hug: I'll always have a "gap" where my Jellybean should have been. I'm so sorry you lost your precious baby :hug:

She really had no clue! That's an awful thing to say to someone, I'm so sorry those were the words you received when all you were seeking was comfort :( :hug: I remember waking up from my d&c feeling similar - scared, alone, and missing my baby. Luckily the nurses around me were not as blunt as yours, although they weren't particularly comforting either. All anyone in that situation wants to hear is, 'I am so sorry.'

Huge hugs :hug:

That is terrible I am so sorry. After my recent m/c where I ended up in hospy, the nurses in emergency (there were 2 on -small town hospy) came up to me after the ob confirmed my m/c via u/s and hugged me, told how sorry they were and offered me some information booklets and a counsellor. I feel so lucky.

I am sorry you lost your baby and had that experience:hug:

Oh wow that is awful! When my SIL misscarried she had a horrid nurse to, after crying to hold her bub (eptopic at 12weeks) she was told it wasn't even a baby it was a... (whatever the medical name is). People can be so cruel.

I'm really sorry for your loss, your baby was just to beautiful for us to see

:hug: I'm sorry you lost you baby :hug: I think the things that are said by those so called professional must effect that little bit deeper. When I had a D&C after we found out we lost our bub at the 12 week scan (the one I lost in your Belly Buddy Group) the anethetist (sp) at the hospital said to me right before I got on the table "people should only be having 1 or 2 kids anyway, the world population is growing too fast and there are already too many people living on the planet" :crying: As you can imagine I was shattered and wanted to scream at him. If I wasn't already so fragile I would have.

This makes me cry. It is so insensitive of some people just to blurt out whatever they think. You know sometimes just a hug or a pat on the arm is enough rather than say some random awful, almost judging comments. I'm sorry for your loss.

I am sorry you lost your little angel and that you had such a heartless, thoughtless nurse :(
When I m/c the doctor did an u/s and turned to me and told me that my body had done a good job of getting rid of it...IT was my baby she was cold and unemotional. :(

Hugs xoxoxox

oh ery thats terribly thoughtless. hugs to you hun:hug:

:comfort: ery I know your pain (we have angels a few weeks apart too) and they feeling of not even being sure you will ever have another baby let alone never having the child you long for is unfair. I am so sorry that you came up against such an uncaring and non compassionate woman :hug:

Im sorry for your loss. The nurse said a similar thing to me, but I was lucky because my lovely Obs was so caring and compassionate. Why arent we allowed to cry for and miss our babies who were lost? Why do we have to focus on the next pg (which in some cases might not come for a very long time)? I agree with you Ebery, those very comments you mentioned were what hurt the most.

Im sorry you had such a horrible experience with the nurse hun :hug: As if the mc didn't hurt enough! I have had a few horrible comments about my mc's as well, it really hurts :( Just wanted to give you a :hug: Good luck with clomid sweetheart, hopefully it'll do the trick very soon! xxxxxxx

How awful! They really need to do some training on how to be compassionate! I'm sorry you had to go through that hun, hugs

:( Like any baby can just be replaced :(

I am so sorry you had to hear those words on top of everything else you were dealing with!

Good on you for getting it off your chest!