One Natural, One emergency CS...scared !@@#$% what should I do?

So I had a natural birth with my first baby but I did have complications with my cervical 'lip' It did have to be moved & shifted as she was stuck several times. My 2nd, I had a somewhat inexperienced lady and a very busy hospital and was not checked upon very often but had my waters broken, and had to have the 'lip' manipulated again..a long labour then something happened and I had the most horrific pain, I threw up and was prepped for an emergency c-section. She was brow presentation. Is this because she couldn't get past the cervical lip and just all of a sudden shifted? . Both labours were 12- 14 hours and I got to 10cm with both of them. I am terrified to try a natural birth again and I am seriously considering a elective c-section. What do you think?

You got to do what ever makes you feel happy and secure. If you feel extremely scared about having a natural go with the csection. It comes down to you and you're body and what you feel comfortable with

Good luck

How active were you during your labours? Did your support people offer you suggestions to help with getting bub in a better position?

An experienced doula or independent midwife might be able to make it a better experience for you, and increase your chance of having a vaginal birth, if you wanted to try for a vbac.

good luck in working it out,

Sounds like you didnt' get very good support/care second time round. Do you think maybe that made a difference to how you feel about it? The funny presentation is just one of those things you can't really control, I think.
I had a lip both times. The first time they just waited. The second time the OB pushed it aside (we'd transfered from homebirth so was a bit pressed for time). My DD presented sideways, ear first, so needed some help getting her out too, and it was a very painful and long labour because of that. I really think if I hadn't been at home with great midwives then I never would have had a vaginal birth.

Under the circumstances, it sounds like you're a very good labourer! Getting to 10cm even with an atypical presentation. Maybe it would be good to talk with a midwife or doula about how things went previously and what your options might be. You might be surprised at the difference having different care can make. I also think it's a good idea for you to address your fears, regardless of how you decide to birth. It's always better to let that go.
In the end of course it's really your decision to make and I don't think anyone else can tell you which way to go.

Only you know what is right for you.

My suggestions are to research, research, research. Look at all the options available out there and educate yourself about the ones that feel best for you. If you decide to try for a VBAC i 100% agree with the suggestion by HotI about hiring a doula or an independant mw, i can not speak highly enough of how beneficial it was for me to have a doula. I recommend reading Ina May and books like that to regain ur confidence. I found these things so helpful to me after 6 births where i had no control.

Whatever decision you make is best for you though and dont let anyone tell you otherwise.

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Sweets no one can tell you a definative answer the choice is ultimately yours.

I love the suggestion of having an experienced Doula or MW with you if you choose to have a vaginal delivery. But if you are going to be stressing out over the "What If's" then just go in for the C-sect if you are most comfortable with that.

Every birth is different and having the right support CAN make a world of difference but no matter what its your body and no one knows it better than you.

Nae x